okay well. this might be long. im just gona keep typing until i run outa things to say. because i need to talk to sombody. im in 11th grade and ive liked this girl whose a year older that goes to my school for about 2 years and now this year. through those 2 years me and her have been really good friends and me and her have been doin that one and off liking each other thing. were she likes me i dont like her. i like her she dont likes me bulshit. so this year. i find out she likes me again and i really like her. so we hook up and make out and its been great. so i ask her out and we start dating and she starts to get completely weird. she seems to ignore me and keeps saying shes busy. i understand that she is busy she is pres of keyclub, gettin ready for Sats and collage and everything so shes like really busy with thins and i completely understand but fi she could give me like 10 minutes i could be happy. so she asked me to go to this breast cancer walk for key club, and i go but when we're there she wont even talk to me really. i put my arm around her and she walks off. so i just hang out with my friends. then aftewrod i ask her if she just wants to break up because she dont really seem like she wants to go out. and she gets in tears and says shes busy and is sorry but she cant have a bf right now she cant handle it all. i told her id be happy to help her with things but she sed its not me its her and she just cant handle havin a bf but she still really likes me and wants to stay friends. and as you all guys know. you cant be friends with a girl after youve kissed, because its just not easy. if you just pass by the girl and get one glance its like a punch in the chest. i dont really know how to handle things. durin the break up discussion we were both in tears and i guess im not very emotional strong, but i told her i just wanted to see if you still cared. and i understand that ur busy and i can deal with that i understand its a busy part of senior year and things will get better though and she just sez she cant handle havin a bf its bad timing. what do you guys think i should do cuz i been in tears thinkin bout the good times weve had for like the past 4 hours and iuno wut to do. ive relaly liked this girl alot and i wnat things to go back together. can somone please help becuz i think ia lmost drove my truck off the road like 5 times otw home after we broke up and jsut really need some help on this one. thanks guys i appreciate it.
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Girl troubles.
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You really seem to care about this young lady and I went through a very similiar relationship not long ago before I moved. Atleast she is honest by saying she isn't ready and it sounds like it. Her main priority is herself right now and like my ex we weren't ready to move forward because of our personal ambitions and careers. You still have a friend and it sounds mutual so that is good. Embrace each others friendship and try to avoid talks about relationships and sex. Time will mend a broken heart and by reaching out to talk to someone is a healthy way to help you along as you heal. Hiding your feelings or dealing with them by drinking or doing drugs will only do more damage. You sound like me when you mentioned seeing her and it is like getting hit in the chest. Neither me or my ex have had a serious relationship and I just found out she is now dating someone and I saw their pictures and BAM, it hit me like a truck in the chest. I thought about it for awhile and came to reason with myself and put my ego on the shelf. She is happy and if you truly care about someone that is all that matters, that they are happy. I sent her a gift in the mail that she could put to better use than myself and right after I sent it I found out about her new relationship. I told her jokingly "oh hell no you better send it back! Your with someone now, your not aloud to move on!" We both have a great sense of humor and still do. We are still friends and I can be thankful for that. We both care about other's feelings, so we never put each other in bad situationsAn old friend of mine from my military still goes by a line I dropped him once. I told him don't beat yourself up over things that are out of your control. Someones free will is exactly that. You shouldn't have to convince someone to be with you. I have found myself in the past trying to get girls I fell for to be with me and I was just being selfish. I was thinking of #1 and not her. The human ego is powerful there is no doubt about that. Your far to young and have so much ahead of you, and you shouldn't bring yourself down over her. Be strong and everything will come to pass and you will be stronger person for getting over one of lifes many hurdles. Just don't forget to stop and enjoy life and don't let past relationships affect your ability to love again.
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yeah dude. thanks that really helped. i completley undersatnd now. me and that girl are taking a break until she gets finished with all the shit she has to do but who nkows wut will happen ya no. but until then. im gonna live life to the fullest.
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I am glad it helped and you seem to be in better spirits. Msg me anytime if you want someone to talk to about it. Lao Tzu and Taoism have helped me through some ruff times and no matter your religion his quotes are something anyone can use."By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning. "