I dont know what to do

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ive been so depressed lately, i need as much help as possible, please give me any feedback you have.

im going out with this guy, whose incredible, we've only been together 6months, but we've already spoken about how much we love eachother, and that we want to spend our lives together. but since ive always had a trust issue with my boyfriends in the past, im having trust issues again. if hes having a busy day, and doesnt get to call me throughout the day, i freak out. i always convince myself somehow that hes looking for another girl and is going to break up with me, or is cheating on me, or doing things behind me back. he never did anything for me not to trust him. hes the best thing that has ever came into my life. i know how much he loves me and tells me everyday, but i still get these crazy thoughts that something is wrong whenever he doesnt answer my phone calls. i always confront him about it, and he tells me what he was doing, and everything is fine again, im happy, and i beleive him. its like i cant function if im not with him or talking to him. all i think about is him, i dont want to be anywhere else ever. i always get really depressed if i think about him leaving me, i feel like i will have nothing in life left. i dont have a strong bond with my family, and my friends are all backstabbers. i just cant stop crying, and i wish this feeling would go away, i dont know what to do .. :confused:

It's in no way surprising to me that you're depressed when you've handed over the reigns of your life in this way. I'm not being hard on you, I promise, I know that sometimes when our emotions are all over the place it is hard to see the wood for the trees; but you need to fill your life with interesting and enjoyable things Kisses, that are entirely independent of your relationship, and when you do not only will you be happier in yourself but you'll be someone your boyfriend will be a lot less likely to want to leave. As it is you are in the process of driving him away. I think on some level you actually know that and that may be what is fuelling your hysteria.I remember reading somewhere the opinion of a feminist (I cant remember who) on this subject, and she said 'Lovers should always remain on the periphery of a womans life'. While I dont totally agree with that I think there is some sense in it in, in that I really dont feel a man should be the centre of a womans universe, as yours seems to be, since you say that you cannot function without him and feel that if you lost him there would be nothing worthwhile left in your life. Surely you can see that that is unhealthy Kisses? It is unhealthy on a lot of levels, emotionally, mentally, psychologically and probably physically too if you're just moping around the house waiting on him to come home all the time. What does it do for your confidence in other areas if the whole of your existence is dependent on one person? If the whole of your existence in dependent upon one person then you are extending that person an extraordinary amount of power over your life, so much so that your life itself is worth nothing without his say so. Do you understand what I'm saying here? You've stripped yourself of your personal power and handed it over to somebody else, and that is never a good idea, regardless who they are.I think you need to claim your life back as your own; get out and broaden your horizons, busy yourself with other people/projects that you can share with your boyfriend when you are both together when all your other commitments are done and out of the way. You will be happier and healthier mentally, and a person more desirous of being around and your boyfriend will notice the difference, believe me.

youre absolutely right, i do realize i need to claim my life back. usually i am really busy tho, i have school 3 days a week and the other days, im working and going to the gym after. i think maybe the main problem is with my friends..being that we have drifted because of one thing or another, if i go out for fun, its always with my bf. i definately think i need to patch things up with my friends, and do fun things without him. thank you so much for your help

No problem honey, you can send me a pm if things get tough, x.

ur too attactched to him.... my suggestion is to do other things that dont involve him