Hello everyone, I am usually one to give help instead of asking, but I was brought here like everyone else. I about a month ago moved for my jew job and the new job just happenes to be where I grew up. I don't know if it is a blessing or a curse, but either way here I am. I have been leaning towards curse lately it seems. Most of my friends are gone and the few I have I can never mingle with due to my job and the hours I work. I tend to cover my depression very well and the only one who could see it is my Dad and he isn't much on talking. I have even voiced my concerns to him but he still doesn't seem to catch on, but he has always been this way and I know he loves me more than life itself. I have been stuck on 3rd shift for months now and have the WORST nights off possible. Don't even get me started on work, but it is the only place I actually feel human and seems to be going well.Anywho I left my past life/friends behind and have had my ups and downs, but I seem to have hit an all time low. I stopped working out which is a must for me and my mental well being, but I just make excuses. I need it to clear my mind and for the extra energy to make the best of this crappy social life. I came out of this slump with guns blairing when I met a girl who I thought was "the one", but she has her own life problems and sadly pretty much fell off the planet. She even told me no one has ever treated her the way I did and now I basically cease to exist in her world. That caused me to drop below where I started and have been steadily dropping ever since. I ignored my mental state and how it was going to hell, but now it has caught up with me. I am over the girl, but I just need some motivation and my steam back. Up until now I was doing pretty damn good for myself and comming off that is making this worse it seems. Well enough babble from me, and I will leave it open to any of you who would like to help me out. Thanks in advance!
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Needing some motivation
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Well for one it takes courage to move away from all your friends, even if it is back home. A social life is so important and I personally admire people who can take on challenges like the ones you've taken.
Is there anyone at work you like? Guys you goof around with or girls you think are good looking? Even if they work another shift there is nothing to stop you from talking to em. I'm in university in my hometown at the moment but a lot of people from distant places usually break the ice by throwing a party. I don't know how old you are or if that's appropriate where you live but that could be one way?
If you home is big enough that it has a club or bar you could always try that out if you want to meet someone. You say that despite a lot of your friends moving that there are still a few around. They must have friends too so maybe hang around your friend's friends and see if it's a group you like to mingle with?
In all honesty I dunno what to say about girls. I'm still lucky to be at university in that regard so there is always a "study session" or some equally 'loosely' legitimate reason to hook up and *ahem* "get involved with." I don't know what to do outside of school really.
A lot of what I've heard circles around interests. Figure out your hobbies and interests and join a community group. You say you like to work out. Go to the gym before you get fat =P Kidding, but there are bound to be girls there. Or if that won't fly join or start a club... like cycling or jogging or something. It's actually a scientific fact that working out by itself not only has a positive effect on your body but also on your mind. So even if there isnt a gym you can join, start working out at home!
I hope I was at least a little bit of help, sorry I'm usually the advice needer!
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Well for one it takes courage to move away from all your friends, even if it is back home. A social life is so important and I personally admire people who can take on challenges like the ones you've taken. Is there anyone at work you like? Guys you goof around with or girls you think are good looking? Even if they work another shift there is nothing to stop you from talking to em. I'm in university in my hometown at the moment but a lot of people from distant places usually break the ice by throwing a party. I don't know how old you are or if that's appropriate where you live but that could be one way? If you home is big enough that it has a club or bar you could always try that out if you want to meet someone. You say that despite a lot of your friends moving that there are still a few around. They must have friends too so maybe hang around your friend's friends and see if it's a group you like to mingle with? In all honesty I dunno what to say about girls. I'm still lucky to be at university in that regard so there is always a "study session" or some equally 'loosely' legitimate reason to hook up and ahem "get involved with." I don't know what to do outside of school really.A lot of what I've heard circles around interests. Figure out your hobbies and interests and join a community group. You say you like to work out. Go to the gym before you get fat =P Kidding, but there are bound to be girls there. Or if that won't fly join or start a club... like cycling or jogging or something. It's actually a scientific fact that working out by itself not only has a positive effect on your body but also on your mind. So even if there isnt a gym you can join, start working out at home!I hope I was at least a little bit of help, sorry I'm usually the advice needer!
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Thanks! Sadly this is a very rural area, so no clubs or anything like that. Plus my hours and days off pretty much blow! Coworkers, well I am only one of a handful that are my age group. Most of these guys/gals are older with different agendas. Don't get me wrong on a normal shift I can shoot the shit with just about any of them, but outside of work we all kind of go our own ways. On the shift I am on now, your pretty much flying solo. I don't have quiet the "normal job", so it is a weird atmosphere, but I can be thankful that most my coworkers bare for the most part pretty damn cool. Well I guess I will just keep chuggin along. I miss college and the military days. My liver probably doesn't, but the group of friends back then rawked. Atleast I can say I partied like a rockstar for the most part. I still can't believe the endurance I had back then. I mean damn I could never work 13hour shifts and still go out and hit the town. :smirk: