My friend from church is in a relationship with this guy who is the exact opposite of her in all aspects but she loves him and he loves her. alot. like lovey dovey birds. well for a couple days now not sure how long there's this guy in our church whom she used to have a crush on but got over it. But now she seems to be falling in love with him again and it's basically tearing her apart lol. She told me that she wants to talk to him so bad and stuff but she can't because she's shy and also because of her relationship with her guy. She was actually crying today because of how she was feeling. She didn't speak to him only said hi but that was it. She's just confused right now and I don't know what to tell her. She said it's getting worse because she's thinking about him all the time and such. At school and at church and just whenever. Today she told me she had a dream that she was sleeping during church (bad!) lol. and basically just dreaming of him. I won't get into it. She says it's easier for her because he has the same beliefs as her and because she's known him for so long and they're friends and such. But she feels horrible because she already has a boo. So yeah... any ideas she's kind of driving me nuts with her dual personality.
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On behalf of a friend
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Eventually she'll have to make up her mind. I can't help thinking her present boyfriend may be attractive because he's the other side of the fence.
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yeah that's usually the reason. almost a sign of a rebellion or something... ugh
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well if she loves her guy , the crush bit could just be something of an unrequited flame? that pestering " what if?" has she weighed the differences? sure her boyfriend may be different then her but they still love each other, so they must be doing something right, so whats there to like about the crush besides having the same beliefs and such?
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well... she has thought about it but she's still a bit confused. knowing one longer than the other but loving one more than the other.
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If she really does love her current boyfriend, then stick with him. I think it's immature to end a relationship because someone better comes along. Besides, the grass always looks greener on the other side.
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oooo so basically, its either long friendship or love in which knowing the person will eventually come? hmmm the scale just dropped through the floor....
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She wont get over her crush anytime soon.. trust me on this one.. she needs to give it time and focus on the relationship that she is in or she will be doomed! Just because she has a crush on somebody doesnt mean that they will like her back.. stick with the one who loves her!