Damn! I said i wouldnt do this!

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Damnit! I have this really good friend thats a girl, and she has a boyfriend, and i said to my self as soon as we started hanging out and I found out she had a BF that i would not fall for her, that I would just be her friend unless she dumped her BF which seems unlikely as shes been with him for a year, but damnit! I just love every minute I'm with her, her hair smells so good, lavender, she's so pretty, smart and funny, DAMNIT, this blows, I sooo want to be her BF but I can't. DAAAAAMMMMMNNNNNNNNIIIIIITTTTTTT

yes because we can ALL control it when we fall for someone, you put way to much faith in that bud other than that its best to wait and try to avoid the friend zone as well as possibly becoming the rebound guy, dont know what else there is to say

yea, oddly enough i had a dream last night where she broke up with her BF and tried to jump me, I pushed her away and said " no i want you to wanna be with me cause you wanna be with me, not to make him mad". oh well, one of my friends I told said i should tell ehr that I really enjoy spending time with her, good? bad? watcha think?

ehh kinda leaning towards bad , she could start to think of you as her girlfriend with a penis, or she could take it as you like her and things would get wierd and upset and such, its a somewhat difficult situation there, dont want to get to close to where she never considers you for a date or atleast not for a long time, or you could give too much away and scare her so tread softly young padiwan (sorry dork moment there)

In reply to: scare her so tread softly young padiwan I would first like to point out that I would refuse accept advice about girls/dating from someone who refers to Star Wars.Its what's happening to me at the moment. Got a friend, very pretty, smart, fun, funny and importantly SMOKING. Unfortunately she has a BF, I wish a thousand times that they weren't together. But alas, that’s is not to be.Basically I am falling in love with her; I know its not going to happen, but still. I still hang around with her thinking:Maybe they'll break up..........fall for me.........whatever.I know what it's like, like your getting kicked in the bollocks by an invisible enemy; you can't fight him, escape him or even surrender to him.I'm thinking I might just tell her that, even though I really want her and care for her, I can't just be trailing behind her all the time while she goes out with that bell-end.Sorry, got side-tracked there telling you about my problems.Basic low-down, your fucked. I hope it works out for you, but I have never heard it happen. Prove me wrong, but that’s just a heads up.At least your competition hasn't been together for nearly 2 years!I'm screwed and miserable. BRING ON THE BEER!!!Mr. Nuts

Wow, I was in the exact same situation recently. Lucky me, she just broke up with her boyfriend for reasons which she explained to me. I think I'm going to ask her to a movie next week to 'test the water,' so to speak. And then I guess I'll see where it goes from there..Anyways, best of luck.. I don't really have any good advice for you, I'm sorry.

ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!! DAMNIT!!!!!! SON OF A BIIIIITTTTTTTCCCCCCHHHHHHH. she broke up with her bf yesterday, and then told me that she has a cursh on this guy that we know.I'm moping now

Hug That's tough.

That's shitty. But at least you have a better shot now than you did earlier.

i'm such an idiot, she said earlyer "I'm sorry if that hurts, peopel have been sayign you really liek me" and me being my dumbass self said "naw, I am man, I dont hurt" and i was screaming in my head "SAY JUST A LITTLE OR SOMETHING!!!! NOOO IDIOT!!!!!!" and her had hung up on me i think, and now i have a headache, and my mom is mad at me, ARGGGGG this is the worst day ever

My condolences, it seems you are in the friend’s stage.That is never good. Never give up, never surrender. Bit of a poxy saying, but I like it.Quick update of my situation. I ended up telling the girl I want tonight my feelings for her. I believe she is actually considering me, leaving her BF of 18 months for me. Damn, I’m good. But I’ll probably find out she won't want to throw what she has away. But the fact that she is considering shows there must be something there.Mr. Nuts

I was in absolute misery today, even the afore mentiond girl noticed. i had 2 girls come over and hug me and 1 gave me a kiss on the cheek, alas, the missery persisted, and guess waht, SHE DIDNT REALLY BREAK UP WITH HER BF!!!!! women are so confusing, and they hurt so much, maybe i should tel lehr why i was so misrible today...

You can tell her if you want. But be prepared for rejection.
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

heh heh, stolen one of my sayings eh? ... well, that's okay good advice if ever I heard it... anyway, gotta reply to our young friend here now... as for the "Friends zone" dude, you just have to break out of your little quagmire that you seem to have gotten yourself into, sometimes, you have to risk it all... if you don't tell her, then, you'll never know how she feels... how do you know this other guy for example, wasn't just a ploy to get you to open up ... trust me, women are just this devious sometimes, and, I don't mean this in a bad way to all the women who will intepret it as such, merely that they try and save themselves any unnecessary hurt by using a "defensive" approach to dealing with things ... oh, the joys of being a man, and having to try and interpret these signs :S lolAnyway dude, good luck... if you wanna cheer yourself up some, then, check out a film called: Just Friends never know, might just prove to be your inspiration ... it's obviously a funny, but, some of those films have given me the inspiration to do things I wouldn't normally lolAnyway, anymore help required, you know where I am Dan

Well, going on some advice that C'C gave me, I'm thnking I'll just move on, keep my eyes and ears open, but move on

You should have been honest with her about your being hurt. It may have all been a test to see your reaction, to see whether you really do like her or not.

Why do you think that men do not hurt? Do you think it is cool not to hurt, hence you acted tough? You're a fool for thinking this, as it has probably screwed you over even moreso. She may now think that you don't care for her much at all.

Women like to hear that you love them, even if they already know it. She may have wanted to hear that you were feeling hurt by it all.

It takes more of a man to confront and reveal his feelings, than to hide them/ignore them/run from them.

well, its a good thign i didnt tell ehr, cuase it turns out she haddn't really broken up with her BF in the first place

Well, no it's not! Who's to say that she wouldn't have broken up with him if you had said, "Yes, I am hurt, and yes, I want you". She may well have broken it off with him if she honestly knew that you were into her.Honesty is the best policy. Why do you want to live life trying to be someone that you are not (ie: lieing about your feelings)?

Would that apply to a married woman also? "I love you. Please leave your husband."What if you were gay and you had a straight male friend you had the hots for?

No, I just think that she was borderline break up and was 'feeling the water' with rybapocalypse. It's obviously a case-by-case thing.Would you not agree that it's best to show what you're truly feeling, rather than acting around being something that you are not? Is that something you do frequently?