This is not a joke, I'm 18 and because of my protective parents every time I'm with a guy even if I'm not interested in him I feel uncomfortable because of the way my mum and sisters have treated every guy I have ever mentioned. Even my friends tell me that I act different.... I have tried to act normal but I just can't relax. One of my closest friends even approached me the other day and asked me "does it bother you that you are the only one who hasn't had a b/f or even been kissed?" It does bother me! But only recently because I have liked a guy for about a month and we were talking to each other on msn and he flat out asked me my past relationships. He knew what my family was like, so I flat out told him. NOTHING. I havent heard from him since. I dont' like him now, but is this always going to happen in the future or was he just a jerk. All guys out there..... does experience matter? please advice me.... I need all th ehelp I can get.
I'm 18 - never been kissed!
I think he was just a jerk - unless the way you described your mother and sisters was so threatening that his courage failed. Most guys don't require experience, and some guys prefer no experience.
Well, without knowing the full content of the msn conversation it's impossible to tell if he was frightened off by the spectre of an overprotective family or if he is just, as you said 'a jerk'.
I dont know, but what I do know is that there is no shame in being inexperienced and a good deal of shame in being a lot more experiened than somebody should be. Do you think you'd feel worse if you'd shagged your way through every bloke in the neighbourhood and had earned yourself the title of 'the village bike'? Would you trade places with a girl of the same age with a reputation like that? Just something to think about..
Also, I'd start getting vocal with my family if I were you. You're a young woman now and are at the age where you ought to feel comfortable bringing somebody home without wondering what sort of nightmare your family are going to turn it into. If I were you I'd point out to my parents that with the way they're behaving you'll end up conducting your relationships on the qt, and that if that's what they want they're going the right way about it. I'd be willing to bet the thoughts that they might not be able to monitor the situation at all might just put the frighteners on them!
I can relate to how you feel uncomfortable with letting your family know of any guy you like. I had about the same problem. My advice would be just don't really let what your mom and sisters are telling/teasing you about the guy bother you.
Oh yeah, experience doesn't really matter, to me at least.
thanks guys for your advice... Becoming that girl which everyone treats like trash because she is easy is definately something that will never happen to me because I would never do anything like that... it just goes against my very nature.... but thanks for reassuring me that I have nothing to be ashamed of.
And about the parents thing... I officially finish school in less than a month and I have already told my family to back off in the nices way possible... they have agreed lol
I'm 19. And I received my first kiss... when I was 19!
I'm a guy, and none of my friends even knew I had never been kissed. When the moment of truth came, I was so nervous my girlfriend told me my lips were shaking a little bit (she just told me this recently when we reflected back on it). I was so nervous I'd do it incorrectly, but actually, slightly shaking lips aside, she said I blew her away with my kiss. She knew I had never been kissed, but I was a better kisser than she had imagined I would be.
Don't beat yourself up over it. Just wait until you can share your first kiss with someone really special. It's nothing to be ashamed about!
Oh - and to answer your other question..
Nope - I don't think experience matters. Actually, I think guys would be more attracted to girls with LESS experience. If I were getting involved w/ a girl who I knew had never been kissed, I would've thought that incredibly cute & adorable to be honest.
That's how my girlfriend viewed me when we were first falling for each other.
my friend once old me that everytime someone comes upto and says does it bother u ur a virgin or never kissed a guy she says this and its soo true
"their are so many people like u
but not many like me
and no matter how hard u try u will never be able to have what i have but i could give it all up and become like u ... but i wont"
i hope this helps
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