Blurting out my feelings to my female friend

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I've been telling myself I'd do this for weeks now, tell my friend, whom I've spent so much time with now that she's back in the city for university, how I feel about her and ask her about being more than friends. I sat there in front of the phone for about 15 minutes, phoned her, didn't really get to the point and said goodbye, then phoned back and basically just poured it all out. I asked her if she wanted to go out and I don't know exactly how it sounded to her when it came out but it was by no means a nice easy, "I know we're friends, but would you be interested in going out with me as more than a friend?" She's been on my mind every day and not asking her has been driving me crazy, so I had to do it. I'm just worried about the impact it might have on our friendship, because I don't want to lose her either way. I can deal with being just friends if need be, I just need to find out how she feels first so I can draw a firm conclusion.

I kind of wish I would've done it in person, but the words just wouldn't come out whenever I was with her. Basically, her response was she needs time to think about it. I kind of layed on my bed staring at the ceiling for awhile, and got up and went for a run to get my mind off things. I really hope for the best and any advice on how to not make this any more awkward would be appreciated.

Good luck! At least she didn't say no right away.

To quote good old Monty python"you lucky lucky bastard!"You have it easy; I am in the EXACT same situation but with some minor differences:I told her in person, therefore I felt like a right jockey.I have already made the conscious decision that I can't be friends with her if she says "no" (I haven't told her that) because I am never going to get over it if we keep seeing each other.I have to contend with a boyfriend of 18 months. What a bastard.I'm not saying you have a good situation, but always think, "it could be worse".Best of luckMr. Nuts

Fair play to you for mustering up the balls to say what needed to be said. The only thing you can do now is wait for her response and yes, it IS a positive that she didnt say no straight away. At least this way you know you're in with a chance. If she does say no assure her that you dont want it to affect your friendship and then maybe in time it can turn into something more, bearing in mind that she was prepared at least to consider it.

I know exactly how you feel hon... I told my best friend how I felt about him lastnight as well and I'm still up in the air over it. It is a good sign that she didn't say no to you right off the bat. Just sit back, wait, and hope for the best hon 'cause that's all you can really do. If she does say no, well then at least you tried and I raise my glass to you for trying ^_^ Good luck hon!

You go man!A man's got to do what a man's got to do!Take what should be yours!Divide and conquer!You are very brave. So go ahead and take what you deserve!It will turn out OK. She's yuour friend, so she knows you and you know her enough so why not take this relationship a step forward?

I went through the same shit with a good friend. After a couple of days of her thinking about it I got rejected. I handled it as quickly as I could and seemed to work. Its been 12 years and we're still friends. When she said no, I let her know I was a little hurt, just not how much I was hurt. With a downtrodden expression, I said something like, "Oh, okay. That's okay, I understand." Then quickly, so as to avoid any silent awkwardness, with a smirk I said something like, "Your fully aware of what your missing out on, here? Your sure your not going to regret this. Cause once I'm gone baby I'm gone." Then I laughed or tried to laugh, if I remember right it didn't come out to well. Then I rather quickly, or as quick as was possible, proceeded to move the conversation back it the friend stage. I also lightly peppered the conversation with references to what she was missing out on but only for a short while. In retrospect, I guess, the key was to briefly acknowledge the hurt, avoid awkwardness as much as possible and get the friendship back on track. Later after we were firmly back in the friendship thing, we did talk about it and I told her then, how much it did devastate me. All was cool by then though because I had moved on.I don't know if this helps you but it worked for me. So there it is for what it's worth.

\>You are very brave. So go ahead and take what you deserve!
It will turn out OK. She's yuour friend, so she knows you and you know her enough so why not take this relationship a step forward?
Katie is a girl, talking about a male friend of her's. I think you got it a bit backwards hehe

It seems like every guy has at least one of these stories in his life.For mine she came back with some bullshit about not having enough time and asking if we could just be friends. I agreed at the time but a wee while later I found out she was going out with one of my old friends. I reacted by bad-mouthing her to everyone. Not my finest hour but I'd do it again.As for some advice, don't get your hopes too high. I did and I set myself up for a big fall. But yeah, good luck.

Thanks for the advice everyone. She phoned me while I was out a couple hours ago, and when I phoned her back she ended up telling me she liked things better being just friends. We talked a bit, and when she said do you think things will be kind of awkward I just said "Nah, it'll all be good". Truly, it does hurt a lot considering how much I've thought about her and how much I like her, but I'm just glad that things don't seem to be too awkward and it's still easy to talk with her.Possibly a little late, I dropped off a letter I wrote to her university residence building earlier today, but it hasn't been sent to her floor yet. She now knows about it, and I guess she'll read it tomorrow, but the general idea is it says how I feel about her, but the thing I was worried about messing up is our friendship and that's something really important that I would still like to keep if she's not interested in something more.It was quite a bit like your previous situation Oldfolks. It's nice to have something like that to look at and think I'm not the only guy to have felt this way.