ok, here goes. both my gf and i are 15 and have known each other for about 2 months now, and ive gone out with her for like 5 weeks. the thing is, she has got some serious problems and i just dont know how to help her. i know the root of a lot of her problems, such as the death of a very close family member, the attempted suicide of her best friend, who she now hates, and some sad experiences with her previous 2 ex's, such as being used, and being cheated on. i would really like advice on what to do here, if not to help her, then just how i can deal with it. this is what she suffers from, in a nutshell:she is anorexicshe is exteremely shy and sometimes cold because of bad experiences with 2 previous ex'sshe is very depressed, cuts herself on occasion, and has tried to commit suicide multiple times.when she gets upset about something, she will not say anything, she would rather stew in her own misery and make herself feel worse. just in general, she has wild mood swings (but much worse that normal ones, i mean proporly depressed/upset) she gets upset over very silly things, such as just earlier today she was upset because she thought she had upset me, but as much as i told her it didnt matter, she would not cheer up for hours.when shes is at her worse, she thinks she should give up on life because there is no reason to continue, she thinks that she wont get into 6th form and without that there is no point in continuing life.she has had therapy and has seen a shrink multiple times, but ended terribly, with her cutting herself in the session shouting "this is what i like, gettit?"she is an absolutely amazing person on her good days, dont get me wrong. but her wild mood changes and her mental state make it just so hard for me. i have no intention of leaving her at all (although she has told me more than once it might be best if i left her as she says she is a bad influence). i love her so much, all i want to do is help but i feel so helpless.please, give your thoughts on how i can help her, or just how i can deal with having these troubles in my life. thank you for you time taken to read this, it means a lot to me.
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How to help my gf
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guys, please reply, this is so important to me
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hunn,some people dont reply right away because they dont know what to say.
your gf sounds exactly like me a few years back. shes dwelling on her past; like i was. she thinks that because of her past relationships,your relationship with her is gonna end up the same way. same as me also. all i have to say is be there for her as much as you can,but if she gets upset,give her some space. try and get her to open up more as well. let her know your there for her. it helps a lot...if you need any more help,pm me. :smile: good luck
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Ash its ok, Inelegible is helping him with THE EXACT same post over in Teen Life and Health.......No worries, about him being ignored.
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oh O.o thanks then
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I was reading it, wondering what kind of weirdness was going on, because I read this post, and some answers...and they were all gone...like duh, they were on the other post. Frusterating when peops double post..