I just wanted to address this. I've somewhat answered it myself but I could use some insight on this.When I'm around my guy friends and I joke around with them, they take it lightly and laugh (not exactly playing the dozens, they do say things back). But when I'm around certain girls, they really refuse to believe that it's funny. A double entendre or a "That's what she said" type joke and I'm a "sexist pig" (a couple were offensive on purpose- just cause I was pissed). This really only happens with one girl I know. It's kinda strange. Infact, she ended up really not liking me because of this. And then she said some mean things behind my back. Which led to this:Name, Listen, you two faced bitch. I don't care how fucking offended you get because you're the minority in the group, if I'm around mostly other guys I will make any jokes I want. None of which were specifically targeted towards you. So, for whatever fucking reason you were so pissed off you have no right to take it out on me when I'm not around just so you can make yourself feel better. I'm done with you. Don't ever come near me. Don't ever speak to me. Don't talk about me. I'm not friends with you, if we even were in the first place (which I don't think we were).Don;t reply,NameBut then I got a fuller story, and that it was really taken out of context which led to this: Name,Friend explained everything to me. I'm sorry for saying things that I've said to you that you found offensive, or more recently, downright mean. I didn't get the whole story and… I don't want to lose any kind of friendship or whatever we have. Though you or anyone else will most likely never understand why I joke around so much, I promise to stop around you. I'm sorry. Very sorry. Had I known the full story to begin with, it would have passed without incident. It's just that I was not in the best of moods that day, and lately I've been sick and tired of doing nothing about people calling me names and making fun of me, and now I only realize I was taking out pent up anger on the least deserving person, you. Let's just put this whole thing behind us, okay? NameAnd now we're the best of friends. It's a strange relationship.... And now I basically can't make my normal quick jokes around her. Why should I really have to accept this double standard?Just needed to vent-zuner345
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WTF?
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I think you were out of line in your letter. Her's was at least mature.
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If you have a big group of friends you will have to learn that there some things you say and some things you keep to yourself. You might joke around with person A, B, and C but NOT around person D, E, and F. When all 6 of them are together you won't be inconsiderate enough to bring up shit that D, E, and F are sensitive too.... that's not a good frienship man.
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How is it a double standard? It's a double standard if she runs her mouth on you but you can't on her. From what I gathered she only said shit because she thought you talked smack about her. Now that she knows you were not referring to her she has apologized and probably won't do it anymore. You should be a stand-up guy and keep your mouth shut about shit she finds sensitive (and not because she is a girl... I have guy friends I can't with sensitive areas).
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Fights, if resolved properly, always bring people together. Every relationship has fights... believe it or not they are a healthy part of relationships.
There is no double standard for you to accept. What you should be doing is being a good friend and just start enjoying your time with her instead of fretting over small stuff like this. You only live once man. :grin:
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No, she makes any joke she wants.... BUt, in any case....