Do I ask?

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Ok, so back in January I totally fell for this girl at my school. We had been friends, but it seemed like overnight, I had new feelings for her (I’ve liked different girls before, but have never felt anything like this) and I could have sworn that she had feelings for me too. We started hanging out quite a bit, and she would do things like, always sit by me and come down to my desk and work instead of hers. I wanted to ask her out so very badly, but was so afraid that it would ruin our friendship if she said no. I tried several times to ask her, but every time that I started, words would get all messed up in my head, and stupid things would come out. Spring rolls around, and I learn from one of my friends that she has a new boyfriend. It hurt so very badly, because I knew that I blew it. Even though I knew she had a boyfriend, she still did not tell me for a good 2 or 3 weeks, and only then did she tell me. I felt like she really didn’t want me to know. Anyway, over the summer, we didn’t see much of each other, because she was out of the country for a month for school. When school started back up, I had told myself that I was over her. But on the first day of school, when I got a tap on my back and turned around, and saw that beautiful smiling face of hers, I fell for her all over again. I never brought up her boyfriend, and neither did she. I came to find out that he is out of the country studying abroad till January. Since school has started up again, we’ve been hanging out quite a bit again. She still doesn’t ever mention her boyfriend again, unless someone else brings him up, and then she only talks for a brief moment. Recently I’ve come across two tickets to a concert. I decided to ask her to go, and she said that she would love to, and has been very excited. I even talked to her this morning, and she was still excited to go. This afternoon however, she came up to me and told me that we needed to talk. She said that she felt bad for going, because one of my other friends is a big fan of the band and that I should take him. I told her that I really wanted her to go, and she said to really think about it, and that we would talk tomorrow. I’m kind of nervous, because I think she knows how I feel about her. Everyone is telling me to just tell her how I feel, but I don’t know what to do. Do you think I should tell her? Or make up some excuse to why I asked her over my one friend? And If I do tell her, any suggestions on how?Any help would be much appreciated

Tell her, and tell her soon, if only to put yourself out of your misery! You certainly wont be telling her anything she dosent already know, and I'd be willing to bet she has a few feelings of her own, otherwise she wouldnt have kept the existance of her boyfriend so quiet all this time.Really, get on with it and get it out in the open, and to hell with the other guy, you saw her first!

You are so right. I have been a nervous wreck ever since yesterday when she first talked to me. Actually, she called me up tonight, and told me that she decided not to go cause she felt bad! I was like, "whoa, lets talk about this." and she said that we could tommorow, but she had pretty much made up her mind. She had meant to talk to me today in person, but said that she was really nervous. So now I absolutey have to talk to her, and there will be no avoiding it.

Make sure to let me know how you got on!

I ended up talking to her, and she told me that there was no way that she could go, because she felt so guilty for going. I could tell that she felt bad, and decided to let it go. The worst part was, I still couldn't tell her how I truly felt. I was able to mention that I loved being with her, and always had a great time doing things with her, but failed in telling her my feelings.That talk happened on Friday, and I didn't see her all weekend. Monday came around, and for some reason I felt like she was acting differently towards me. Not different in a bad way, but in a really good way. She seems to be talking to me alot more, and I'm always getting these looks/smiles from her, that make me feel really good. She knows that I go to the gym everyday, and asked if she could go with me. We've gone a few times now, and we always seem to be alone. I've found through this time with her, that I care more about her than I thought. I feel soooo close to her, but still can't ask her out. I don't think I've ever been so nervous in my life. I'm just back to the feeling that if something goes wrong, we won't be as close anymore.

Ah for Gods sake, what more do you want? Does she have to write it in the sky?? Tell her you're mad about her, get on with it! Best of luck,xx...!

I think you should definitely ask her out, it seems you have been given a lot of hints! Just go for it... What do you really have to lose

Ok, I haven't seen her all weekend, and didn't feel like telling her how I felt online or on the phone. We did talk quite a bit online though. I made the comment that I was so cold (it turned to ice outside), and she agreed. I was just joking around with her, and told her that if she were with me right then, we could keep warm together. I was totally just messin' around with her, but she got really upset and told me not to say that. I told her that I was kidding but she still seemed upset. Since then, we haven't talked at all. I said hi to her today, and she said hi back, but didn't say anything else. I'm really curious as to what happened. She seems soo angry with me. Any ideas as to what happened?

Backfire with the sexual innuendo. Apologise to her in person and mention that it wasn't meant to sound that way but it was still inappropriate etc. See how she takes that, depending on how well it goes decide whether or not to make your move.

Well that's something I wouldnt have been expecting! From what you've said she was giving you all the signals that she liked you and what you said wasnt overtly sexual in any case, all you said was you could keep eachother warm! Good God, if this girl could hear some of the smut I've had to listen to in my life.. I dont know what to say here, other than she seems really overly reserved. Let us know what happens next!

hence the reason its good to go after girls that can take a joke, like the girl i am after, I'm always saying stuff like "hey Chels, wanna go to the janitors closet and have soem fun? this work is boooorrrirngg" she just laughes and says "well I would say we would have to make it quick, but thats no problem is it?" BTW no, we have not done it, just a running joke

Well, she didn't speak to me for a few more days, and I told her that we needed to talk. So we did, and I had asked her why she was avoiding me. She insisted that she hadn't been, but eventually told me that I had made her feel uncomfortable. Then she said, "we're just friends, right?" It was kind of wierd, I was sad when she said that, but at the same time, I wasn't totally blown away by it. I told her that we were, and even though I did like her, I understood that she had a boyfriend, and would never do anything to hurt our friendship. After our talk, instead of feeling heartbroken about the whole thing, I actually felt pretty good. It was like, I wasn't worrying.Now though, after i've been thinking about it for a while, I realize how badly I blew it. I mean, I really felt like all I had to do was tell her how much I cared for her back in the spring, but I couldn't do it. And I realize that now, there is probably a zero percent chance of us ever getting together, and it really sucks. I need to get her out of my head now, and I'm really having a hard time.

you shouldn't beat yourself up about it man...ive blown more than enough cnahces to fidn out that moving on is the best. it'll be hard to get her out of your head but then agian you don't have to stop thinking about her that way. just don't start obsessing about it. TAKE a deep breath, realize that you never know what will happen in the future, and be happy. and anyways she sounds like one hell of a friend, be happy you got a good one