Well I used to be best friends basically with this girl. Last year we were inseperable. We'd always hang out together, and we'd always be talking to eachother. Even when she didn't want to talk to anyone, she'd always turn to me for advice. I was really good friends with her ex boyfriend, and when they broke up, our friendship grew even stronger. Then last year I started dating one of her best friends. We broke up during the summer because there wasn't really any chemistry or anything. But ever since then it's kind of been weird.
Her and I don't talk as much anymore. Her locker is next to mine, and she is in my drama class, yet I haven't really held a serious conversation yet this year. Usually I'll say "Hey, how's it going?" then she'll just say that she's fine, then goes to talk to anybody else. She is in the advanced program at school, and I'm not, so I can see why we don't really talk a ton about school and stuff since she is either further ahead/doing harder things. That's fine with me, but we hardly talk at all anymore. It's starting to make me sad that our friendship has basically gone to shit in the last few months and I don't even know why. What should I do about it?
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My friend and I...
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Correct me if I am wrong...but you miss the friend, NOT the ex girlfriend..
Friends, come and go. They all have something to offer your life.
But if you miss it so much, try to talk to her, and let her know that you miss it. Going out with her friend may have made some difference, since in high school everyone wants to be accepted.
Are you still freindly with her girlfriend? You guys didn't break up on a bad note right?
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"Correct me if I am wrong...but you miss the friend, NOT the ex girlfriend..- YESFriends, come and go. They all have something to offer your life. But if you miss it so much, try to talk to her, and let her know that you miss it. Going out with her friend may have made some difference, since in high school everyone wants to be accepted. Are you still freindly with her girlfriend? You guys didn't break up on a bad note right?" -Yes, we had a mutual break up. Still talk on a regular basisWould I basically just tell her the things that I put down here?
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pepsi chaser is right. friends come and go. thinking you can make someone like you as a friend again is like thinking you can make someone fall in love with you- i mean, there are ways of trying, gifts, showing a share in their interests, etc, but in the end its kind of futile. just relax and be approachable, if you drift apart you just let it happen- you could very well become close again. ive had a friend for 3 years who i regularly fall out with, become close with, drift apart from, then become close with again. it just goes on.
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My concern was that your "ex" was influencing her in some way.I would tell her what you put down here. HS is a tough time for friendships. Some will last a life time (including ups and downs) and others will last all of five minutes.Let her know that you miss the friendship, and if that truly is all you are looking for from her, she should be very receptive of being your friend.
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Simple: Talk to her.Pull her to one side and express your concerns, shes not a mind reader, these things dont fix themselves, all relationships take a degree of effort to maintain try to put the effort into dealing with the situation before you really drift appart.