This one is very long, you have been warned.

DxLISHxISx_43

I hope everything works out for you two Bob. hugs

bobalicious

OK, tis all over. Thanks to everyone for the advice.

starfish

How so? What happened??

bobalicious

I got tired of waiting for my friend to talk to her so I texted her myself. We had a little talk and we both agreed that we had become very distant, a lot because she has been so busy So we decided to split. And altho I don't really like it that much, it was a mutual thing. We're still gonna be friends because we still like each other a lot, its just that the relationship went a bit empty.On the bright side, I now no longer feel guilty for having naughty thoughts about some girls in my college course.

bobalicious

I'm starting to feel really sad now. I don't like being alone. I don't wanna go to bed cause I know I'm just gonna be up all night thinking about her. This sucks.

Ineligible

***Hugs***It's hard. And after any major decision, once it's set in stone, then come the misgivings that you have made a mistake. It happens after every big decision, even when it's the right one.

bobalicious

Thanks. Its just so annoying. I had been waiting for months thinking that it was only a matter of time before I would be falling asleep beside her again, and now suddenly it won't ever happen. And its not just sleeping with anyone, I have no problem with that. It was her, I wanted to fall asleep with her, wake up with her. And all I can think of is all the things I could have done to keep the relationship going. All I did was let it become dull and boring. I sat around waiting for her to organise things because I had always organised our get-togethers, I wanted her to take some control in the relationship but I never actually told her. She probably thought that I was getting bored, and she started to give up like I did.Oh, this is gonna go on for a while...

Hyperion

I know what ya mean man, I'm in the middle of the same thing. I just have to tell myself that it wasn't meant to be, at least not for now. I would love to crawl under the covers and hold "her" in my arms while we sleep. I would love that and about a thousand other mushie things.

But the more I think about doing stuff like that the more I get down on myself for not being a certain way, acting a certain way, doing this, doing that, and then I start to rationalize why I should change and why whatever she did wasn't really so bad.

It takes two man. It's not your fault and it isn't hers. But if you didn't make a move and she didn't either what does that tell you? She had the same oppritunities to strengthen the relationship as you did. Screw the "The man should do everything" crap. If she wanted to continue going out with you she would have piped up long ago.

You both need a break from eachother whether ya want it or not. :grin: Work on your personal stuff man.