ok im 15 a spohomore. I recently moved to oklahoma from houston. in houston i had a alot of friends,outgoing, i wasnt affraid to be myself. but ever since i moved here ive been quite, shy, reserved, insecure (the exact opposite from who i truly am) I think most of it just comes from the fact that im insecure esp about my appearance. I'm in marching band and found a group of people who i wouldnt call friends because i really havent known any of them for more than a few months and they really dont know me at all because i just dont talk that much, plus ivve never been invited to do anything with anyone. and if it werent for band i would really know anyone. i dont know why but i dont talk in my classes. this isnt the first time ive moved though, i moved to houston in 7th grade and didnt make really but 2 friends so i would go home and cry because i didnt have any friends(i dont do that now though), i hated 7th grade and i dont wanna hate this year for the same reason. it doesnt help that this situation has me depressed, but its situational depression not clinical, so theres no need for a medication.how would you suggest i get over this? i know that with time ill become more like myself but what do i do if the people who im "friends" with now only like the quite me and not the outlandish, crazy, loud me ????
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Being the new kid..... im suddenly shy
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Sometimes it's important to go out of your comfort zone and push things forward. Push yourself to do things, to talk to people, to invite yourself to things.Don't worry about your present friends. If they are true friends they'll be happy that you become less shy and more yourself.
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this happens to me alot..ive moved 8 time in my life...i always am shy but u get use to it and get bak to your old self by the end of the year. but what does help is organising something and invite people..e.g. 'i was gonna go see a movie on weekend...do u wanna come with?'
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yeah ive moved about 4 times and i dont want to waste this year because im insecure about being myself, i mean high school is suposto be the best years of your life, it sure seemed like they were going to be perfect untill i foundout that i was moving less than a month before school started, and i guess what im trying to say is i dont want to remember 10th grade as being so terrible
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i mean high school is suposto be the best years of your lifeNot for most people.
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Yes, I think most people would consider college a better time.
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Totally, and for a number of reasons, but mainly because most people can find others who are like them. Also, by that point, most of the violent bullies are mowing lawns or serving time.
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Even the most confident of people will feel uncomfortable in certain situations, its natural.As already said its about moving out of ur comfort zone, don't expect people to do all the legwork with new people, make urself known for the right reasons, what are your interests? Interests are a great way to get to know people as people like talking about what they know. Music is a great thing to get into, everyone likes music, its the international language of expression.If ur unfomfortable in certain situations, deal with them one step at a time.Ultimately im sure you know what needs to be done, theres no magic answer its just getting in there and on with it.
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High school is filled with immature people who are uncomfortable with themselves. College is where you can truly grow into a fully functional adult and become confident in who you are and the choices you make. You also get to meet people who will be life-long friends.My college years have been the best years of my life and I wouldn't exchange this experience for nothing.
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High school annoyed me because people were being dumb about their "social standing". I remember using the phrase, "What you were in high school isn't going to matter in the real world."
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That's a good point