Ive never been in a relationship at all in my life,im 20 years old and now I really want sum kind of relationship.Im tired of being alone and im quite sure im bi or bi curious and i want to start a relationship with a friend who I think likes me,the problem is imnot 100 percent sure he likes me back altough i really do think he is,the question is how do I tell him or bring it up.I was thinking of waiting till he stays the night and then maybe try to kiss him,last time he stayed he took his shirt off while we were sharing the bed and said he was hot when it def wasent,i had the window open,he leaves me all these signs but im just afraid to respond.any ideas or suggestions?thanks
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How to tell sumone U like them
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Theres no definative answer its completely situational.Just consider the fact that he is a friend and what implications would there be if he was not interested in you and even visa versa.Your best bet will be to be honest to him about your feelings. If you feel its worth the risk then go for it! If not, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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ur fuckin wack,what kind of an answer to my question is that but can any NORMAL person help me out and give me an answer on feelings for my male friend and advice instead of sumthing goofy like that?
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Ooooops, sorry, that post went into the wrong thread. Back to the regularly-scheduled thread...
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well, I dunno if it would work for you, but i asked my girlfriend out over msn, i was liek "sooo, uhhhhmmm, are...are we...uhmmm, are we gonna go out with each other?" and she said "YES!"
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For guys who are unsure about their sexuality, a kiss can be rather confronting. Some will have sex but not kiss.
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one time i told him i was going to kiss him but it was kinda in a joking around way and when he came over he asked when he was getting it and i laughed and he said whats so funny,when am i getting that kiss?
i think hed be fine with a kiss,id rather tell him on the net then in person but hes going to stay tomarrow night so well see what happens.
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Oh, well that's different then.It's harder to do thing in person than on the Net, but it's much better to do them in person. Good luck tomorrow night!
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Okay I figured Id give u an update.
Not much has happend between us,Its prob been two monthes now sice we have hung out. I talk to him online and see him out at games and stuff but thats been it.
He says we have nothing in common,and i think thats why we dont hang out as much.
Last Saturday night I heard hes been smoking pot and I wigged. I asked him about it and he admitted to it. I was in total shock because he would tell me he hates drugs,cigs and alcohol. He said he only does it when hes really bored and he said it was around 6 times. I was sick to my stomach when he told me that. i kinda lectured him and everything and didnt talk to him till tonite and I told him I love him and I didnt wanna see him ruin his life.He told me he loves me to and not to worry hes not gonna turn into a pot head.
I know sum people dont think pots a big deal but ive seen way to many people ruin there lives over pot,thats all sum care about.I guess I really care for him to make such a big deal out of this,I really care because hes only 14 and thats to young to start that shit. I know he dosent wanna talk about it and I dont wanna make him mad. Hopefully I will talk to him agian soon and even get to see him.
Im still not sure how to tell him I have feelings for him,I really want to but i dont wanna ruin our friendship.
I tell him all the the time Im fine with just hangin out and watchin movies but I dont know.On my myspace I have NOT SURE as my sexual orentation but so far him or anyone else has said anything..unless noone really pay attention to that shit.
If he says one night Im gonna ask him if I can kiss him,Since Ive kissed him on the cheek many times he dosent care but maybe I'll say Can I kiss u on the lips this time? or just do it without him knowing Im gonna kiss him there.
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are u a guy or girl? if ur a girl, go for it and just make a move.
don't talk to him about it and just try to kiss him or seomthing.but if ur a guy, then i dunno, cause MOST guys aren't into other guys and it's a risky situation.
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Im a guy, Yea thats why Im scared to tell him,I dont wanna mess up our friendship. I finally after 9 years told sumone else Im bi. I just talked to a girl friend of mine whos openly bi and it really made me feel better to tell sumone.She is going to take me to a gay bar and introduce me into the gay lifestyle.She didnt really give me to much advice about my feelings for him but she said not to be afraid to be myself and enjoy how I feel and all that stuff. we'll see how it goes with that and if I go to the gay bar maybe ill tell him I went and see how he reacts.
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EXACTULLY the same problem as me ... see my other post (Afraidtoask)tommy
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Quote:gay lifestyle.What's the gay lifestyle?
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I have no idea myself,I dont know anything about gay people and how they live there lives,I tought they lived the same way as all of us but I'll find out sooner or later i reckon
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They are all different, coys, just like all straight people are different. There isn't one gay lifestyle, just as there isn't one straight lifestyle. You don't have to live your life in a different style because you're gay.
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okay i see now.What should I expect when I go to this gaybar,my friend said its an 18 and over club or sumthing. Im going to be really nervious. Im not really one for drinking or dancing. I enjoy talkin but Im afraid I wont have much to say.I think im just gonna drink alot of energy drinks so Ill be more comfortable.