Turn for the worse, 3 years for nothing.

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Ho-boy did things ever take a turn for the worse tonightTried to get a hold of my girl via text about two times tonight, figured she was sleeping (She works nights) so I didn't call. I went over to her place to surprise her, and lo and behold she is not there. She returns about 20 minutes later with her friends and roommate.On a side note, there is this concerning joke that my GF has been playing with her friend, this whole "lesbian" thing, done to bug me I'm sure. Granted I can take a joke, but not when it goes so far as to the point her friend put her arm around her from behind, and started kissing her.Perhaps I'm stuck in my own little Neanderthink, but I felt like diving across the room and tossing her little bitch friend out the window. I didn't react, however. She keeps making jokes about threesomes with her roommate and friend, and although most people may think it's just a joke, and she swears she hasn't done anything I'm reminded of this "A joke is half jest, half truth"On a secondary note, she is having a nice little party tommrow night, I get off work at 2am and I asked if I could come...to which I was given a "no. When asked why, she said it was because I make her feel guilty about drinking; I informed her that she shouldn't feel guilty and that I don't really care if she has fun to which her reply was (In a good Femi-Nazi tone) "I don't need to ask your permission". I asked again why I wasn't allowed to be there and she said "Because there will be a lot of people here, and there will be no room for you to sleep"I couldn't help but inform her that I intended to only have a beer or two and then go home, which she responded to "You probably just shouldn't come". Pardon my German, but what the fuck?Now I am absolutly FURIOUS beyond belief. I don't give a shit about the fact it's a party, I'm having a fit because she is really excluding me from her life. I know she got my text messages too, she just chose to ignore them.I think it's ironic that just a couple days ago a girl here described her problem with her bf going out to parties without inviting her, etc, and I told her to ditch him. I think the irony of going through the exact same situation is delicious; I guess I should practice what I preach, eh?

Being a doormat is not delicious. Why do you do it?Do you remember what I said about serial affairs? I'd be very concerned.

**If she is having sex with a woman its still cheating in my book, and shes being a total bitch............you don't need to put up with this, youtwo need to talk and figure out whether you both still have a relationship or whether its time to move on :frowning: **

Don't feel that because you've put three years into the relationship that you have to keep on with it to avoid wasting your investment. That's what makes people keep pouring their money into failing businesses until it completely ruins them instead of half-ruining them. Anyway, you've learnt a lot in the three years and you can take what you've learned into your next relationship.

Yea, she has turned to uber bitch for no apparent reason; this little joke thing has been going on for a while. Hell, if she does it, I just want her to try it and get over it....but this is cruelShe goes out of her way to be cruel now, and acting all high and mighty around her freinds. This exlcusion thing is what takes the cake, though. There has been nothing that I've done with any of my friends that I haven't invited her too; hell, I even used to make plans with friends based on her schedule.I think now I'll get a little avatar of a heel or a doormat, cause that's exactly what I feel like. I'm not 100% sure of what I'm going to do yet, I may just go and visit her little event, drop off her shit and walk out...I'm not sure. I gotta let the rage subside, I think.

I'm not 100% sure of what I'm going to do yetI assume whatever your going to do, it will involve leaving the relationship. (What would you tell someone else who posted what you have posted?)

Ha, I think showing up at her ridiculous party to drop off her shit in front of all her friends and potential lesbian lover would make you a legend.

Big Jays idea would certainly be ending it with a bang! But just be aware, if you do decide to take that route that you certainly want to end it, because it's not likely she'll forgive such a publicly humiliating experience (whether she deserves it or not is another issue!)There was a point in my own relationship a couple of years back that I was being subjected to behaviour I wasn’t prepared to put up with, so I left, simple as that. No bells and whistles, no drama, just a simple conversation outlining the offending behaviour as the reason I had to leave. We didn’t speak for weeks and he eventually came back - minus the behaviour.If you really want to be with this girl, but want her to stop carrying on like this, my advice to you would be to leave her and let her either come to her senses or, if she can’t cut that out of her behaviour, let her wreak somebody elses head with it.

She called me today, obviously feeling guilty, we had a chat, and for right now I going to hold off; just observe, dissect, and prepare.

"just observe, dissect, and prepare"Smart strategy, especially the 'observe' part! Good luck with it and let us know how you got on.