There's no reason you can't have both, but what you have now is hardly a relationship.
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Confused and stuff and like yea ya know?
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Suppose, but i know i can have both its just that i wouldnt give up my education and my future if my partner wanted me to say move in with them or something.I have just been talkin with my close friend and we have come to the conclusion that the reason i always stay with my girlfriend is because i feel guilty of leaving her, and even when i dont she uses emotional blackmail to make me feel guilty.Maybe now i can finally be free?
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I hope this is a wind-up Ray. If you are serious, then you've got problems. From here I'll 'assume' that your post is genuine...This chick does NOT want to meet you. The reason 'something always comes up' is because she makes it come up.It is possible (although unlikely) that she is really shy, insecure and afraid of letting you down. She seems pretty impressed with her own looks for a shy chick though. Probability? Less than 1% I'd say.Far more likely is that EITHER 'she' is actually a 50yo gay paedophile with a comb-over, who just happens to know how to set up a fake webcam, OR, she is a silly little schoolgirl ego-monster who has several guys like you that she teases regularly to see how much crap they will take from her.Meeting on the net and then taking the relationship into the 'real' world is fine. Having a relationship that ONLY exists in cyberspace is ridiculous. You don't relate to people as 'human beings' on the internet, you relate purely as edited comments through your command of the English Language.A 'real' relationship is about animal communication, pheromones, body language, facial expressions, spontaneous laughter, interaction, non-verbal communication that you only get when you are in physical proximity to another human being.Tell this chick she is annoying the crap out of you, either you take this relationship off-line for a while or she can find someone else to tease.You'd be surprised how many girls there are out there on dating sites, who consider it a 'sport' to tease guys and boost their own egos by collecting vast numbers of unsuspecting men for their 'virtual harem'. They have no intention of meeting any of them.You are humiliating yourself.
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The whole point of meeting someone from the internet that you've been in a relationship with is to introduce the physical aspect into it.I didn't realize that you're 20 years old. When do you plan to meet?
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Well its been a long time since i last posted in this thread, but shes not annoying me anymore and we have worked everything out.Heres the big thing though, she recently told me over the phone that shes actually 2 years younger than me and that was the real reason she didnt want to meet up because i would notice (well duh) and she didnt want to lose me because i have told her on loads of occasions that i wouldnt go out with anyone thats more than a year younger than me.Though for some reason, apart from the lying aspect i wasnt really bothered.And since i already love her i decided to stay with her, and good news is im actually able to go down and see her.I just want to say that i have full confidence that this relationship is genuine and is going to work out, and i seriously doubt im setting myself up for any sort of dissappointment.Im saying this cause i can see from alot of peoples replies that they think im crazy and that this chick is just playin me, though i guess you have to actually be in my shoes to think the way i do about this relationship because it looks mad from the outside. Dont worry folks!
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im actually able to go down and see her.So you actually have met?> i guess you have to actually be in my shoes to think the way i do about this relationship because it looks mad from the outside.It's easy to lose one's objectivity from the inside. If and when you've actually met her, in real life, I'll buy into your not being mad.