Scared for taking too long to orgasm?

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I think if you worked out a technique to last a long time, there's no reason to presume you can't keep on doing it.

I'd like to add that the "pull out" withdrawl method, is indeed a method of birth control. It's failure rate is about 20%. The same failure rate as the diaphragm alone. If used properly it can be very effective in combination with other methods. Would I recommend using it alone? No. I also woudln't recommend using the diaphragm, cervical cap and female condom alone either.

I'd like to add that the "pull out" withdrawl method, is indeed a method of birth control.Tell ya what.. call to any clinic and ask them if the pull out method is a form of birth control. Not only will they laugh, but also tell you no. If you need more reason why, read the above posts, it's all laid out there for you.

Technically, it's not a method, but in some pamphlets and books, they have it listed as a "method." And I think the success rate is around 70%.

Really? That's pretty said, just the STD reason alone makes it dangerous.Around here you won't find that listed as a "method" of birth control. Oh well, you can only give people the information and than hope the use it right?

"I'd like to add that the "pull out" withdrawl method, is indeed a method of birth control."I was being somewhat tongue in cheek. But as far as pull out is considered a "method," prayer to can probably be considered a "method." Just the former is a lot more effective.This is what familydoctor.org has to say about it. In reply to:Is withdrawal effective?No. When a man tries to pull out before ejaculating ("coming"), he usually leaves behind a small amount of fluid that leaks from the penis during sex. This fluid has enough sperm in it to cause pregnancy. The point of the dialogue, I think, should be about the efficacy of the method not the method itself. While withdrawal may be a method, at least by my reading, it is not a very effective one. A one in five chance, when talking about something this important, is not chance I would take.>>>"If used properly it can be very effective in combination with other methods. Would I recommend using it alone? No. I also woudln't recommend using the diaphragm, cervical cap and female condom alone either."Now, I know you said this but the O.P. didn't. So, because of that and because of what familydoctor.org has to say about it I stand behind my earlier statement.

I noticed I can have sex for over an hour without cumming, and the second I feel that feeling of intense pleasure(the one you get about 30 seconds before you cum, you know, the build up feeling), I immediately stopped.Then your original question is completely pointless. You're worried that you last too long and that you are worried that this means you are gay.... Now you tell us that you intentionally stopped yourself from cumming and continued on. Whatever..

"Technically, it's not a method, but in some pamphlets and books, they have it listed as a "method." And I think the success rate is around 70%"A2A, this website lists it as higher than that. And all the books I have read had listed it higher. It is a method of birth control. It is natural method, maybe you people are thinking or artificial contraception, of course it isn't that. I'm here to give the facts, and the fact of the matter is, dispite what others are saying, according to scientific research the withdrawl method is approx 80% effective. Spermicides are 75%, cervical caps between 60-80%, the female condom 80%. So, if you consider those methods of "reliable" birth control, why noy withdrawl.

"Around here you won't find that listed as a "method" of birth control"

Then why is it listed under 'birth control -> contraception techniques -> other methods -> withdrawal method'?

Just pointing things out here.

"Oh well, you can only give people the information and than hope the use it right?"

I can agree with that. :smile:

It may be a method of birth control, but I wouldn't use it. It's generally ineffective against pregnancy and STDs.

A one in five chance, when talking about something this important, is not chance I would take.That would be one-in-five, or 20%, over the course of a year. Birth control failure rates are always given in "per year" terms.From what I've read, the coitus interruptus method has a 15-28% failure rate (per year) in typical use.

No, my original question is far from pointless. It is actually revolving around the fact of me worried I last too long, and the "secretly gay" part was just a joke.

If you intentionally "stop" yourself from cumming than the question is ridiculous. If you let yourtself cum, then you wouldn't have "lasted" as long as you did, hence, no worry.

I didn't ever intentionally stop myself from cumming. Well the last time we did it yes, but the first 2 times, no.

Then why is it listed under 'birth control -> contraception techniques -> other methods -> withdrawal method'? Sorry I was not very clear. When I said "around here" I actually meant in the area where I live. I've helped down at the clinic here and in all the literature on Birth Control; it mentions nothing about the "pull out method". Sorry I wasn't more clear (I was very tired yesterday lol)

At the end of the day, what matters is how effective each method is. Some of the common methods have high failure rates, especially when used the way real-life people use them. If used use the way people typically use it, there's a pretty reasonable chance of a pregnancy over the course of a woman's fertile years if she relies on the birth control pill alone.Aside from that, non-barrier methods are no help in preventing STDs.

I completely agree.Just the STD reason alone should give a good reason why a condom needs to be used whether she's on birth control or not.