ya so i really like one of my friends and my school dance is coming up and i really want to ask her out, but if she says no i made hurt our friendship. what should i do???
So there is this girl i like
Maybe you could ask her to the dance as friends and then make a move at the dance.
Ask her! She may want to go to the dance with you. Besides if she says no, I doubt it will hurt the friendship unless you start letting it.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Theodor Seuss Geisel <br /><br />
There's no right or wrong answer here. There are no do's or don'ts. But I could tell you what I would do. I would probably say something like,
"Hey Ashley, I really want to talk to you. I wanted to see if you wanted to go to the dance with me... but then it made me start thinking. Have you ever thought of us as possibly being more than just friends?"
I've actually pulled this off. The response I got was something like.
"Yeah, I have actually thought of us being together. I mean, I'd catch myself thinking about it and thinking if we were together we'd be so perfect for each other. But I don't know, we've known each other so long, it would be weird."
I agreed that I thought it would be weird... Maybe I should have just said well let's try it and see what happens. We never know unless we try, right? And then go in for the kiss.... but no, I wasn't that ballsy then. I just kinda agreed yeah it would be kind of weird. Gave her a hug and left. Anyway, we remained friends afterwards. We're not close anymore, but we both remember our close friendship we had back then.