Okay...I have had this problem for while. It's very hard for me to talk to a girl on the phone for a long time while keeping her entertained the whole time. I have read a whole lot of posts on this web site(a lot of them have said to just say whatever is on your mind). This isnt as easy as it seems and this is really my goal anyway. I want tips and suggestions on how to talk to a girl for a whole night and have her entertained and interested in me. For example, I would love for her to just laugh a lot and feel her smiling when she is talking to me. I was curious what you guys talk about when you have long conversations with girls you are interested in and how to keep the fire going after a few days. The last girl I talked to on the phone even asked me why I am not talking as much. I just replied that I was really tired and sleepy.(I met this girl online and got her and talked to her that way. Online, we would conversate equally with both of us having equal input to the conversation and I can talk to her for a very long time and keep her entertained. I think this is probably because I have more time to come up with a response when instant messaging). I just want all the help I can recieve and I appreciate any response I read for guys or girls. Thanks so much...
Need Desperate Help Talking To Girls On The Phone
Unfortunately some people are not talkers. I hate holding conversations unless there is really something in common. Small talk is impossible for me. I'm good for 15-30 minutes and then I'm done. That's why I hate parties. All small talk for the most part. If you are not a talker then you can be a listener. Some people like that.
The real problem is making it fun and interesting I find. I can speak about anything but that doesn't mean it's interesting! Can you hold long conversations with friends? I always tend to talk to girls the same way i talk to my friends and it's never really failed me. (Though that would depend on how you talk to your friends). =)
Try find a point of interest and stick at it. If you make a joke you can bring it up later sort of as a backtrack if it's relevant to the conversation once more (just don't overuse it).
Saying that, to be honest (in my opinion) you're a talker or your not. I don't think that talking long amounts of time is a great feat, but being interesting when you do talk is. =)
You're here to live. So live.
I don't think anyone should be expected to talk for hours on the phone. That's above the call of duty. Half an hour is reasonable, I think.
I'm the same way. I only go to parties in which I know the people around me. I'm more of a listener than a talker, so I don't really have much to say to strangers.
<span style="color: red">~~Don't make someone a priority when you're only an option~~</span>
Funny thing about conversationalists:
They aren't loved because they can talk, they're loved because they listen.