Virgin

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Hey all. I'm new to this website so I'm not really sure how this works, but here goes:

I am a 20 years old female and I'm a virgin. I'm not unattractive and I'm not super weird but I've just never found a guy worth losing my virginity to. I'm not religious and I'm not necessarily "saving" myself but I don't really see a point in sleeping with some guy just because I can. I feel like I'm the only person my age who is a virgin and I worry that I'm going to be the next 40 year old virgin. How do guys respond to a girl when they find out she's a virgin? Part of me wants to just go out and have sex just to get it over with, but I figure that I've waited this long-- why not wait until I find a guy that's actually worth it? Do you guys know anyone else that's my age and a virgin? Answer honestly, please.

My PERSONAL opinion is that if a girl was a virgin up until 20 and then wanted to lose her virginity to me, i would be quite honoured (so to speak). I think its pretty cool what youve done, i personally dont think that any guy would be any different about it, if anything be touched you decided to lose it too him And any guy that is shallow enough to say anything about it isnt worth losing your virginity too.But thats just my opinion

im not a guy but i think Sam is probly right. I think most guys would think its cool. But just to like warn you. no matter what he says you not supost to like give him head or let him stick it places its not supost to be.

i am 21 and still a virgin. i am ok with it, i will lose it to someone i care about, my current bf knows and is ok with it, we are waiting for me to be ready. so ddont worry you are not the only one

I am 20 and also am a virgin. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and he is also a virgin. We've decited that we want to enjoy intercourse when we can deal with the consequences (aka pregnancy, no condoms to take away anything, etc) and I can't take birth control so we're holding off. We've found it more rewarding, are excited for when we give it to each other when we feel ready, and we have a gained respect from everyone around us!Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of it! Be proud of it, flaunt what most people don't got!

You're 20 and you can't take birth control? May I ask why?

You'll get some guys who aren't interested because they want a girl with experience...stear clear of them. For other guys it's not an issue. Try to find a guy who knows what he's doing...it can be a bad first experience if he's in a hurry and isn't attentive to how you feel.

I'm 23 and still a virgin (and male)Everyone keeps telling me to have a one night stand to get it over with, but thats not what I want.I too want to lose it to someone special, and it would be ideal if she was too - but that's really, REALLY unlikely considering my age now.I just always hoped that it would be special for us to give it up to each other in the name of love - but that's because I'm a (literally) hopeless romantic....plus no-one would want to do it with me anyway.

Originally Posted By: sadbuttrueI'm 23 and still a virgin (and male)Everyone keeps telling me to have a one night stand to get it over with, but thats not what I want.I too want to lose it to someone special, and it would be ideal if she was too - but that's really, REALLY unlikely considering my age now.I just always hoped that it would be special for us to give it up to each other in the name of love - but that's because I'm a (literally) hopeless romantic.I feel the same way too! (I'm 17, though I very well could be 23 or older before I lose my virginity too) I used to occasionally feel like being a virgin for long wasn't a good thing, but I think it's better than having a 1 night stand with a girl and then later possibly realizing that it was a mistake and that you lost your virginity to someone you don't really love. Personally, I want to wait until I am with someone I love. And I also hope that the person I give my virginity to will also be a virgin, but that is definitely just one of those things... either she is or she isn't. If you really love her it shouldn't matter. I'm just waiting for that perfect someone.I say that you should be PROUD to be a virgin! You haven't given your virginity to someone you didn't love, and when you choose to give up your virginity it'll be with someone you love - I think that's admirable.I don't think you should feel bad that you're still a virgin. Also, as a guy, I definitely don't mind, and would prefer that over someone who has already had sex, as it would definitely be an honor to have someone lose their virginity to me. I think it's great that you haven't lost your virginity to "just some guy," and want to lose it to someone worth it!

I am also a virgin while not quite as old as either one of yall, but I am close. I too feel like it is better to wait than to give up something that has now, sadly become rare among our peers, than to willing give it up freely. You know we should start a club for guys and gals like us.The HotDog

Well I'm not a virgin, and I'm not ashamed of not being a virgin. I like having sex, it's nice.I don't want to tell anyone else what they should or shouldn't do. However, I think it is important to remember that having sex with someone you love will ALWAYS be special, whether you're a virgin or a prostitute. That's just the way it is.Beware of putting sex on a pedestal - it can't possibly live up to such enormous expectations, especially if both partners are inexperienced and have been anticipating it for their entire adolescence and young adulthood. It will more likely be uncomfortable, awkward, embarrassing, and possibly even disappointing.As long as both of you can communicate and are happy to accept that, then fine - but I'm always a bit concerned by hearing about people who expect their first time to be on a perfect wedding night with the perfect virginal partner and how the fireworks will go off in a soft-focus hollywood scene. Life isn't like that.If you are putting it off because you are not ready, then you are absolutely doing the right thing. If you are putting it off for any other reason, then I would question your philosophy.Make your decisions, be true to yourself and proud of it, but don't spend your life with your head in the clouds either, as that leads to disappointment. Enjoy life for what it is today, not for what you wish it to be in the future.

Well said brew.

I shall add to this post by linking to what I said in near parallel post. My contribution to the discussion is toward the bottom of that page.

OK i get what you mean and all that, and I'm not saying I'm saving myself for the one that I want to be with forever, but I'd like it to be with someone that I care about, and not some random ho-bag I pick up in some dank club.For the first time this is.But I NEVER get the opportunity even for that, so it doesn't matter anyway.