hi. my boyfriend has been chatting to a girl on myspace for some time now. they send eachother comments saying how cute eachother are, etc, but i never thought much, it's only myspace, he didnt even know her.Then they started texting eachother, she asked him for advice on problems shes having with her boyfriend and he always replied. I tried replying for him once with my opinion, but he absolutely messed himself thinking i was going to say something bad, and stole the phone back.I know it wasnt my business to take his phone, i wouldnt have done anything without his permission.Today he told me he was meeting her. I believe he only told me because i asked him when he met me what time he would be online tonight, he explained why he wouldnt be. I think he felt on the spot, as i have since found out that this has been arranged almost a week, and he didnt say anything all weekend. I know he doesnt have to, i dont own him! But i just think, if nothign was going on, why wouldnt he tell sooner?Anyway, my mind is playing overtime. He has lots of female friends, i dont care at all - i like him seeing his friends. Its just this one person...ive had a horrible gut feeling since before they even started texting. Now my feelings are becoming a reality, and i dont know if im overreacting or not!I just think that cos she's having major problems with her own bf, could she be after mine?!I know if she is, then the ball is in HIS court, its not her fault! Im nothing to her!Im just sat here feeling sick with worry over something or nothing...im 19 and ive been messed about a lot in the past,...weve been together 10 months now, have been to Paris, Gran canaria....it was all perfect and i suppose i just dont want that to end.I ama little possessive i suppose, when it comes to things like this. He was with his ex for 2 years, she was horrible to him and he slept with someone else behind her back last christmas, then dumped his girlfriend for her. Then in January he slept with his EX girlfriend behind his NEW girlfriends back. I told him this was awful and wrong, and when i asked him about it he said "she was rubbing my crotch and backed me into a corner, there was nothing i could do"Bull sh*t. And now all i keep thinking is about things like that...maybe this girl could kiss him and he could say "there was nothing he could do"God, my head hurts
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NOW who messed up
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You are not crazy at all. Your boyfriend has a serious problem with fidelity, and he's not on the up-and-up with meeting this new girl. You should be very concerned.> "...there was nothing i could do"> Bull sh*t.Amen.
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Talk to him about it. It's amazing how many people post on here how they feel about a certain situation... when what they post should generally be what they should be saying to their partner.Communication is VERY IMPORTANT. If you want your relationship to work, you need to communicate. If you do this, and you find out that he has interests elsewhere, then stop wasting your time with something that will be a dead end and move on.
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I've learned to listen to my gut, its usually right about most things!