I have been with my current (and second) girlfriend for 2 1/2 months now. We have only once kissed one another on the cheeks (about 2 weeks ago). Aside from this, Our relationship hasn't gone far on the physical level. On the emotional level, everything is great, and I absolutely love this girl! :-D
However, I know better than to think a relationship can only be half there and last. So, I need to know how to move things along. I am VERY shy, and she is the same way. The next move would be to kiss her, but she's very much non-receptive to physical gestures... I don't get much reaction when I try to hold her hand, so I gave up on that after two tries. She's never had a boyfriend before (neither have I lol) but I have had a girlfriend. One thing, I recall that after we first kissed (she initiated), shit got way too complicated, she dumped me, asked for me back, and then we broke up again...
I don't wanna make things complicated with this girl, but I just don't wanna have a stagnant physical relationship either. And, I am VERRY SHY!
We will be spending Christmas together, and I would like to make the move then, as she leaves for vacation the day after.. but I don't know how! I don't know how to keep my nervousness down .
I'm a wreck thinking of this, and I don't wanna lose her because we drift apart by not moving forward in the relationship! And I know I cannot bring this up, because we are both way too shy to make a reasonable conversation on this subject.
Thanks for any advice,
Moving it Along
Firstly, how old are the two of you? That should help people with some of their answers.
If I was in your position I would ask her if she really wanted a relationship, or just be good friends. A romantic relationship does require some physical aspect to it, so you should probably make it known to her that you view her as someone who you see as someone you are both physically and mentally attracted to.
"Believe those who are seeking the truth; doubt those who find it"
Me = 18, her = 17
I tell her she is beautiful all the time (or on an okayly regular basis)... She certainly would know I'm into her physically.
we are both virgins, and I have little and she has no experience in this sort of stufff. if that adds anything to it.
I getting her a necklace that says Love on it for christmas... hopefully that means something
Oh, and by the way, she HOT!