He's just asked me..

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to marry him!!Hi everyone; I'm not looking for advice here otherwise this'd be in the relationships thread! I know this is my decision to make. I just thought I'd throw it out there and let you all know what went down last night. Good Lord, my head is in such a spin!!

Is this good, bad or just plain shocking?

Likely the first, definitely the last, and possibly all of the above!!

Wowzer! Well whatever you choose, good luck!

Well congratulations on being asked!

Thank you both; it is a bit of a shock I have to say! I guess I've got some thinking to do..

I guess! lol. What a shocker! Exciting that is for darn sure!

**Woooooooooohoooooooooo whats wrong with ya woman, you were planning the honeymoon not long ago LOL

so what did you say???? **

Well I think that some congratulations are in order! If you're a bit freaked out by it just remember that you can be engaged for years, so if you see marriage in the future but aren't ready for it yet, then you can still say yes.

shall I remain silent on the whole marrage thing?

shall I remain silent on the whole marrage thing?

Well since you said it twice, obviously you can't keep your mouth shut about it!

I said; "We'll see". My sister got a great laugh out of that. And we will see, I just have no idea what we'll see, lol.

Yes, ha ha, I was planning the honeymoon and I still reckon a monster drive would be a great honeymoon. It's just that, the conversation you have with a man when you're knocking around the idea of marraige and the conversation you have when he turns to you and says "Lets get married, I want to marry you by the end of february, then you can get your IUD out and we'll see what happens"; that's a VERY different conversation!

We have been having some rows of late so that gets you thinking too. It all seems very sudden to me. I mean, the end of February, thats EIGHT WEEKS people!

If you want to do it traditionally you'll find it will take much more than eight weeks to organise. Some reception places need to be booked twelve months in advance. Even churches will usually expect you to book several months ahead.

I know Ineligible; the thing is, it wouldn’t be traditional, it actually couldn’t be. He was married before and in Ireland (even though he's had a legal annulment years ago) for that reason the Church wouldn’t marry us. We could organise a registry office wedding very speedily (IF!) we decide to.

Congratulations!!!

That sucks! Church marriages are the best marriages; artistically. They're so beautiful.

Imagine getting married in the Sistine Chapel!

I've seen so many beautifully architected churches; It makes me want to get married :smile:

From the New York Times, December 17, 2006:

Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying

Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:

1. Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

2. Do we have a clear idea of each otherâ€(tm)s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

3. Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

4. Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

5. Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

6. Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

7. Will there be a television in the bedroom?

8. Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one anotherâ€(tm)s ideas and complaints?

9. Have we reached a clear understanding of each otherâ€(tm)s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

10. Do we like and respect each otherâ€(tm)s friends?

11. Do we value and respect each otherâ€(tm)s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

12. What does my family do that annoys you?

13. Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

14. If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the otherâ€(tm)s family, are we prepared to move?

15. Does each of us feel fully confident in the otherâ€(tm)s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

I'd expect the artistry to materialise within the interiors of the marriage, rather than the building in which it began!, but thanks anyway Converse.

I'm sure we could pass that test by 13/15 or so, but, as no doubt you'd take pleasure in pointing out, it would only take one to pull us down. Thank you for the dose of positivity; I wouldn’t expect any less of you Steve!

Congratulations, Dear It be so cool to get married in a church or a castle .Best of luck!