Mkay here be my problem,
Ive liked this girl for a while, and rumour has it she likes me too, and me thinks i r going to ask her out, But i just dont know how if you know what i mean, just dont know what to say.
I dont want to go for the "WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME?!" Primary school approach, but i cant make something up on the spot, i will just freeeeeeeze up. I always get really nervous,Like i ALWAYS freeze up in my German Speaking exams.
So if anyone could give any suggests, Sorta like a script would be awesome
So cmon all you charmers, HELP MEH
How to ask her...
Mkay here be my problem,
You don't have to be girlfriend and boyfriend on the spot. Ask her if she wants to go get a bite to eat, as a date. I prefer that approach more.
"This is not my life
It's just a fond farewell to a friend-"
Yeah ino, Sorry the post wasnt explained well, im kinda seeing her already, we go out occastionaly, i mean asking her to the cinema and stuff isnt a problem, i wonna ask her if she wants to be my girlfriend if you know what i mean.
Du kannst deutsch mit ihr sprechen! Sehr romantisch!
Personally i think the "will you go out with me approach" is a good one. When ur at primary school its easy to say such things but as u get older to be so bold to be able to just say what you want gets harder hence your post on this forum.
I would say something like "I think your cool and would like to hang out with you some more, doin' anything Friday night? Wanna go the cinema?"
Its a good approach because the cinema is typically the place you take girls on first dates but your not going all out and saying that you fancy her.
Scary films are a good bet if shes keen as she may jump on you at the scary bits, romance films films are good for cuddling up to and kinda set the mood.
Let her pick as she may choose such films to create the above oppertunities.
That should set up a scene, it is also worth meeting up somewhere like 20-30 mins before the film starts to chat 'n' stuff, dress smart-casually, you dont wanna like like you've tried too hard as you'll look like a knob, too little effort and you'll look like a slob. If she makes a lot of effort its a good sign. When you meet up tell her you like her outfit/perfume, women love it when you notice the little things. Give her a hug when you first meet, guage her reaction. You can tell is someone likes you, theres something about the way they move, the way they look at you the way they laugh at your unfunny jokes :P
I think that should set you up for a good evening, just remember that life is about taking risks and what i've said above has worked for me many times, especially when i was in my mid teens as since you never outly say your intentions, the should still be clear to her what they are and if it turns out she is not interested you have the "get outta jail" card that you only wanna do it as a friend thing.
Good luck, any more help please feel free to ask!
Originally Posted By: Sam8122Yeah ino, Sorry the post wasnt explained well, im kinda seeing her already, we go out occastionaly, i mean asking her to the cinema and stuff isnt a problem, i wonna ask her if she wants to be my girlfriend if you know what i mean.
Grr you had to post that whilst i was posting my last reply. Still some of the info i posted should be useful.
As previously said, if she likes you she will show it, your just not looking hard enough. Asking someone out outright can be difficult and personally im not a fan of it.
Can you engineer a situation where you can tickle her so shes all giggly and happy, you know the kinda thing, then look her deep in the eyes with your face close to hers, hopefully she should look back at you deep into your eyes, move your head in and go for a kiss on the lips.
The great thing about this is that you dont have to say anything and its a pretty sucessful technique and feels very natural, it has a "get out of jail" thing as well as you can say you were caught up in the moment.
Be aware if she reacts well to the tickling and touching its about 80% sucessful.
Since i obviously dont know your relationship or her, that she may pull away but it may not be because she doesent you she may not feel 100% comfortable, especially if ur young and shes inexperianced.
How old are you guys by the way? Id say if your 17+ the above should be sucessful.
Don't ask, just go in for the kiss buddy!
I personally like the tickle and kiss approach. Though, when a girl isn't ticklish, it becomes more of a challenge. In this case, I try to make myself easily open for cuddling. For example taking up all the seats by laying down on a big couch so she'll have to "fight you" for a seat. Or maybe a little push to the shoulder and a smile like you want to play fight or better yet mini-wrestle. Once your in close, whether it be tickling, cuddling, wrestling, you want to move in for the kiss.
The boyfriend / girlfriend stuff come afterwards... in my opinion.
Cheers guys thanks for the replies, They all come in handy = D and dont worry Max your 1st reply will still be used and appriated on another date. Im 16 and shes 16 Max, and we've already been through all the 1st kiss stuff and all that, like i said im basically seeing her but i wonna ask her if she actually wants to make an official relationship of it. And thats what i need help with...
Any help on how to ask her if she wants to kinda officially be my girlfriend guys??
This is an easy one.
You: Hey wanna go to <insert location here>
You: Kay cool. Ill see you there.
<span style="color: #00c0ff">How would you like it if...</span><br /><span style="color: #00c0ff">I ate you alive.</span>
i think you guys are missing what i was asking, im fine with asking her to go out with me on a meal or to the cinema, you know like a date, But i actually want to ask her to make the relationship official, for her to be my girlfriend. Without the primary school "<insert name here> will you go out with me?... <wait for answer>"
"Shall we make it official?"
My ex was the one who made it official for us, but she used "so do you want to give us a go?"
Then she dumped me a week later.
okay, i told someone i liked them not too long ago...i kind of have a way with words and i knocked her off her feet. heres what i think you should do;
its no good asking her out straight away...asking a girl out without confirming that she definetly likes you is like proposing to someone on the jumbo tron at a baseball game; she may say yes on the spur of the moment but theres a good chance shell regret it later, and you dont want to 'trick' someone into going out with you when its not going to last. Tell the girl you like her, and if shes like any girl ive told that to, shell want a day or two to think about it. And thats fine, because if she does decide to go out with you its more likely to be a solid relationship. Im no expert but ive had plenty of trial and error, trust me.
And when you do tell her, dont attempt to memorize anything too much. Just come up with a loose idea of what your going to say- you dont want to be standing there with your jaw hanging open but you also dont want to recite a script, because its pretty obvious when someone has prepared a speech in their head and theyre just reciting it word for word. When i told one girl i liked her, i just took a deep breath, and said '[girls name] can i just be honest for a sec? i really like you. ive liked you for ages' and she took it in, and then told me she felt the same. its honestly that simple. you dont need a big speech planned, you just need a little more than 'i like you' to give it a bit of solidarity.
with that said, good luck! im sure shell be really happy to know you like her