I'm a 20 year old guy whose girlfriend has recently returned from another country. We've been trying to go at it, but... well, I seem to be falling short.
I don't know if it's accurate to call it an impotence problem, but here's what happens: I can get hard, and what she does feels very good - but then I can't finish. Further, when I try to finish myself, it's much harder than it usually is, almost as if the penis numbed down.
This problem has been frustrating to both of us, and I'm looking for a way to fix it. With sex, I couldn't feel much after putting the condom on. We've tried everything so far and either I just limp out or I stay hard and have a hard time finishing.
I've already ruled out nerves, because I flat out don't feel nervous with this girl. If you guys have any guesses as to what could be the problem, I'm all ears, but as of now I'm considering going to a counselor or doctor (or both) to look into it further. It has both of us worried.
Edit: Some further information: I have a history of diabetes in my family, but I have tested myself within the last 6 months and I'm fine. Also, I had a weird incident the other day where I stood up and nearly blacked out (had tunnel vision from loss of blood... was a strange experience), not sure if that's an indication of anything. I used to be on Zoloft, but quit 5 years ago, so hopefully that isn't the problem.
Worried and frustrated - sex problems
While it may not be nerves, it could be pressure.
If you're finding yourself unable to finish, you could be putting yourself under too much pressure to do so. I know that I suffer from this too.
Try not to focus so much on getting the job done, and try to lose yourself in the moment a bit more.
Because of your diabetes and your description of almost passing out when you stood up, I would go see a doctor. Diabetes could very well affect your body this way.
On another note, I would try using polyurethane condoms to help with getting some sensation during sex. I'm not a big fan of condoms either, but I rather have a condom on than a baby on the way at this point in my life.
Just to clarify, I don't have diabetes currently, but it may be a concern sometime later down the road. Another problem I had with the condoms was that since im uncut, they wouldnt roll over the skin when I retracted it (maybe try a larger size?) ... not quite sure what's going wrong here.
I don't know much about uncircumsized penises. You may want to check the uncircumsized threads for information.
Generally, if you are 6" girth and up you may want to try a large condom. With uncircumsized, it may be different.
I had this before, how many times have you done it so far? My first 4-5 times I was like that, and after we took a 10 day break, it took me like 40 minutes to cum, but ocne we started doing it regularly, it got easier and easier, but no condom... so yeah.
I have type 2 diabetes and Ive heard cases where it affects sex, but w/ me..never had a problem..and none of my diabetic friends either
We've tried about 4 or 5 times, as well. Going to keep going at it, I guess, and try not to let it get to me.