I think only one person on here knows about this but, short version.. I hat---dislike my grand uncle but only because he loathes me. Like really really dislikes me from the moment I was born. He is my mom's uncle and he didn't like me 1 because I'm a girl, 2 because I was born in America, 3 because I'm too light and weird in his opinion, and 4 because I'm a Christian (gradual hatred, he started this one when he found out on my 12th birthday). Now mind you all three of my brothers were born in America and only two of them are a bit darker than me. He doesn't like my sister either but he at least talked to her. He just doesn't like me. I haven't even known the guy for a full hour in all my life. Anyway... he "supposedly" changed his life around or whatever and he's actually coming to New York from Brazil where he's been since the beginning of time and he wants to see us. I don't want to see him. I really don't. I'm afraid that if I see him I'll end up kicking his butt or saying something really bad or just make him feel like crap. And I know it sounds bad because I always treat adults with respect he deserves absolutely none. If you knew the things he said to my mom about me and to my face and how he's treated me for the past 15 years of my life you'd want to shoot him too. My mom knows I don't like him yet she keeps insisting I give him a chance. "He's a changed man give him a chance he made a mistake" 15 years of a mistake. I don't want to deal with him. I feel still that I'm being... ruthless if that's the word. But then I don't care lol but I should. What would you do if your uncle treated you like you were the devil's child? lol dead serious though
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Second chance?
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Eh, thats a toughie. I guess if it were me, and he were to seek me out and sincerely apologize to my face about all the things he has said or done in the past then maybe I would. Otherwise I wouldn't. In other words I don't think you need to feel like you have an obligation to go up to him and talk to him - I certainly wouldn't feel that way.
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thank you! yeah I'm not going to look for an apology because it's hard to believe such words would escape from the oral cavity of his very being lol. the thing is I planned to do something that day just to avoid him but my mom has gone from bribery to threats. shame on her
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like animefreak said, unless he goes out of his way to apoligize for past wrong doings dont even bother with his sorry ass, if he cant see the greatness in you he must be deaf,dumb,blind and dead or just plain worthless or all 5 with a surprise bonus number 6 which i dont know what that is at the moment but yeah, so sure give him an oppurtunity for a second chance but if he doesnt just walk away
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Yek. Do you think your mother will settle for a simple "hello"? At least you can say you talked to him :grin:
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eh I really don't want to but it feels like I'm being rude. I guess I shouldn't stoop to his level. I could just say hi over the phone so I don't cause any physical harm at least
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Unfortunately he knew all along and still knows what he did wrong. He would have to apologize and ask for forgiveness big time in order to help persuade me. He is still an asshole with a used tampon in his ears.
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It's quite a shame that this still exists! I know this is a cliché but it’s his loss in the long run.
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word. I'll at least stay in the same room as long as 5 other people are there but that's about it I'm not hugging or "omg I've missed you" no. if he's still the muete he's been for years I'm throwing a fork at his head and HOPEFULLY I won't miss.
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Saturday... and that's another thing! He's going to waste my precious weekend. this week sucked because I had to study like a maniac and now that I have a rest Lucifer's brother is coming to see me. I can't wait
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Does your mother know the things he said/did to you? If so I don't see why she is being so nasty about this...For every action there is a consequence, the guy treated you like shit, and being a "changed man" now certainly does not change that fact, nor does that mean his past actions should be instantly forgiven. I don't see why your mother does not understand this. If the mass murderer sees the error in his ways and gives a tear-jerking apology to the families of his victims, I don't think he will be let off of death row, do you?
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yes she knows what he said to me. but technically he didn't abuse me. shoo the alone time he actually touched me was when he held me as a baby and made it clear to my mother that I was a disgrace or whatever crap he said. my mom's independent and what not but she can't stand up to my uncle. he's not someone she's bold with unfortunately and pushes her around too much. He's the reason she left Brazil
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Maybe he is a changed man...maybe. Either way, you should give him a chance...when you are ready to. Forgiving somebody of something like this can take time, and it sounds as if you have not had enough time. Perhaps let him know you just need more time before you are ready to see/meet him...and make yourself scarce in the meanwhile. Just until you are ready to give him a chance. Giving him a chance, regardless of whether or not he deserves it, looks good on you...not him.
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I don't know... I've gotten over it right about now and I just try not to entice myself into their situations. But you know whatever.
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lol no I'm good. his visit wasn't really bad. I wouldn't know I didn't pay much attention to him. He's nicer than before. He's gone from Hitler to Bin Laden. Improvement indeed. lol