Yea, another thread from another clueless guy. Go figure. But I really do need help, so I appreciate any replies Anywho, so there's this girl that I work with. Her and I have become pretty good friends, we hang out outside of work, etc. However, I've become really interested in her, and people at work think there's something going on, and a couple of my friends think that she's interested for sure just by the way she acts around me. And in fact, we've even gone out on two dates, once out for a nice dinner and once to a movie, which was actually just recently on Sunday. But now on Monday at work, she hardly said anything to me. Talk about mixed signals. That and I don't notice or think she acts any different towards me than she does to anybody else, since she's very outgoing.So does it sound like she's interested? What should I do about this whole situation? Should I ask her out again? One of my female friends suggested that I get one of my friends to ask her how she feels about me. Is this a good idea? Help please!
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What should I do?! Yes.. another one of these.
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Work relationships can be interesting. I've done it. At work, we had to treat each other different.
In this case, I'm not so sure that's what's happening. There could be several reasons why she didn't talk to you at work.
The way I would approach it is I would set up a time to come over to her house or hang out and talk about it. Preferably somewhere private where the two of you can talk without interruption.
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Yea, I'm not so sure either.. I mean, some days I'm positive that she likes me, just by the way she talks to me, her body language, and the fact that she's obviously flirting with me. But every now and then, there is a day like Monday where everything feels really flat.. I dunno. Thanks
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"But every now and then, there is a day like Monday where everything feels really flat.. I dunno"That could be down to any number of things that have nothing to do with you at all. Maybe she was just having a bad day, maybe she'd other things on her mind, I think you might be living up to your username, no offence, lol!As Websex said, people who work in office environments are expected to treat eachother in a professional manner and maybe she was just fulfilling her obligations in that regard. I think you should ask her on another date; ask her where she'd like to go, if there's any particular film or play or anything else she'd like to see or do. That way you'll be being considerate (which always goes down well!) and you'll also be ensuring that she'll have an enjoyable evening, which will put her in a good mood (never a bad thing!). Finish the night off with a nice restaurant dinner (dont pick somewhere new to you, go somewhere you KNOW you're going to have a nice meal) and then take the chance to ask her how she feels about you. Yes, it's tough and you'll be setting yourself up for a possible dissapointment, but at least you'll know where you stand. Good luck.
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im having the same prob paranoia. somedays shes like "oh heyyy" and others shes nowhere to be found. ive come to think that the days shes not acting "herself" might just be my imagination. you know, she might be upset or overwhelmed by something else, and you and i automatically think its us. but really, depending on the girl, and how outgoing you are, just say hey, i find you extremely attractive and i really would like to elevate our friendship. idk what your living situation is, alone/at home/dorm/whatever, i have planned to ask the girl im interested in to come over for a one on one dinner, that i made myself, and then to hang around or watch a movie. i hope i made sense, and i hope things work out. if you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable about how you think shes feeling about you, just give it time.
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Well, thank you to both of you. I honestly appreciate the advice.
And Starfish, I think you're definately right, lol. I'm that way about anything when it comes to women and their crazy signs XD
Thanks again.
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Actually Paranoia, if you're having regular problems working out what the opposite sex is thinking (as most of us do, I'm certain) a great book to read is; 'men are from mars, women are from venus' by John Grey. It is very informative on the subject of how and why we relate badly, and how we can correct this.
I got a lot out of that book, it is filled with insights and I found some of them real eye-openers. I'd recommend it to anyone, whether they're in a relationship or not. It's the best guide to figuring out the opposite sex I've ever come across. You should have a read of it, definately.
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Wow, thanks I'll definately have to give that book a shot, sounds like it could help me out alot