Best Friend

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Hi, haven't been here in a while but ya, I'm back. So anyway, my best friend is going out with this girl that he just recently met, and I don't get it at all, she ain't very good looking, and they have nothing in common. They NEVER talk at all, they just stand there hugging, he becomes really boring around her and will barely talk to me, then when we are alone he acts normal. It's seriously upseting me, it hurts me just seeing them together, they DO NOT TALK! EVER! And he is the type of guy that usually doesn't shut up. It's like he turns into a zombie when he is with her. I'm actually having nightmares about this shit, so now it's really getting on my nervers, and I usually wouldn't ever say this but I have to get them to break up.

Well is it not possible that they like to enjoy eachother's company in silence? It is well possible that when they are alone, they can't shut eachother up!But really, what are you asking of us here? Do you want tips to help break them up, or are you asking our opinion on whether you should do it or not? Because if its the latter, then I strongly suggest that you let them have the relationship that they apparently enjoy.

I'm not asking for anything in particular I suppose, I just need to let off some steam, though I do really wish they'd break up.Also I'm well aware that you can enjoy company in silence, it's just he isn't usually like that at all no matter who he is with even with his last two girlfriends. One time me and my girlfriend went on a double date with them to a resaurant, and they might as well not have been there at all because they said about three words each. He is completely boring around her, and as soon as she is gone he starts talking again. Just doesn't seem normal to me, he isn't being himself at all.

Maybe she is just bringing out a calmer, quieter side of him. Have you told him about how weird you find it?

I want to, but somehow I can't get over how rude that would be, I mean, technicaly it's none of my business

Well it doesn't have to be rude, its showing concern.Do you want them to break up because you think that she is changing him, or just because he doesn't act like your buddy when she is around?

Because she is changing him

i dont know if its her changing him but im guessin he really likes her and they are just stuck in the "awkward stage" at this point in time. pretty soon they will warm up to each other and if all goes well they will never shut up near the other one. hes got her on his mind all the time i guess so hes gonna go near her whenever he can. if i was you id tell him to make a move already! and be patient, a girlfriend is no ordinary friend, and balancing all the people you love is a task.

I have read everything you have written and understand how you feel, but part of growing up is knowing when you need to allow your friend to make his or her own choices. Trust me, They will find out soon enough if it was the wrong decision. Just be there for support and lend them an ear or shoulder if they want to talk or cry, but remember to try to keep your opinions to yourself. This is where your good friend skills come in. Be there to pick up the pieces if it falls apart or be supportave if it works out. That is what friends do for friends...Hope this helps.

Ya, thanks man, your reply was probably the best. I agree with you, it's just very weird to see him like this.