Erection question

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ok so me and my girlfriend have been wanting to have sex and im still a virgin. Im kind of scared i have a ED problem because weve tried twice, once was in this tiny wooden ship and it was like 20 degress out and i didnt get hard. The other was in a house but it was rushed because we didnt want to get caught and i got hard but it wasnt fully hard i guess you could say and i could penertrate but liek i said it was rushed and idk im just wondering how hard you have to be to penertrate and if this sounds liek a ED problem.

Welcome to A2A, jordan. Anyone can have trouble getting hard because of nervousness, especially when the conditions are far from ideal. Being rushed and therefore under pressure is very far from ideal, and most guys would find it difficult.There's no real answer to the question how hard you need to be to penetrate. Women who are nervous often tense up, making it more difficult.Could I suggest that you don't rush it. Don't try to do it under conditions when you are under pressure. You'll perform best when neither of you feels under any pressure to perform at all.

yeah i figured it just seems like i rarley get "hard as a rock" and its still erect but moderatley soft so thats another thing i worry about.

No-one really gets hard as a rock, but is it significantly softer than it used to be? How old are you?

im coming up on 16, but no i guess its not getting softer it just seems liek sometimes when im not trying and get a random erection its alot harder then when i try

It's probably because you're trying and get anxious about it.I've mentioned that it's best if both of you are relaxed and are not really trying. It can also help to refrain from masturbating for a couple of days beforehand, if possible. Also the morning is better than the evening, if this is feasible.

ok thanks, would it help when trying to penertrate to hold the bottom of the shaft to prevent it from not going straight in, also she says it will get harder after we start is this usually true.

It can help to guide it in - it's especially helpful if she does that. Is that what you're thinking of? Or do you mean to keep it from bending?

Yes, usually the feeling once you're in and going at it helps. :smile:

i mean to keep it from bending she already tried to guide it in

Well that can help a bit, though if it's too soft in my experience it won't stay in when you move it.

Thanks, idk its probably just tryng to rush it but i still worry that i have a problem and its driving me crazy

Do your best to take a more relaxed attitude. It will come good in the end.

Yeah its hard to get that off my mind..

your only 16 what is the rush to have sex