Alright, so i moved in with my friend and his wife about 2 years ago (we are all very laid back and dont really care what other people have to say about "oh you live with them/he lives with yous? but your married")
Well about 6 months ago i met a pretty cool dude and he helped me out with my car and stuff loaned me money when i needed it etc, we became pretty good friends other then the "help" i got. But one thing that started happening is he is a drama queen and a huge instigator. And first me and my buddies wife didnt really get along, then we worked everything out(also i like her but only she knows, but my buddies my best friend i would never do anything, im more traditional/loyal)
This kid comes along and starts telling her i said this whatever(she wont confront me on this type of stuff, but i confront anyone when i hear somthing) and then he'll tell me she said whatever. then we started getting into it again. Then eventually we both caught on that hes an instigator and a little back stabber, and runs his mouth thruout our "group" as we call it. (we even played a trick on him told him that i got her pregnet and he doesnt know about it, 2 days later everyone knows except him LOL)
But to quit the rambling i dont know how to confront him because hes helped out so much with some of my problems (and contributed to a lot more i guess) But ive became pretty close friends with him before finding this out and i dont know what to do. I dont want this to go on, nor does she and even though we know hes full of it now he does continue to do this stuff. What exactly do i tell a person like this? im not the type to say go away, or just let a person out of my life in a snap of a finger.
how would you go about this situation?
Quote:im not the type to say go away, or just let a person out of my life in a snap of a finger.
Unfortunately in most situations like this, this is exactly what is needed. Either you tell them to go and not come back, or you have them with you indefinitely.
I think the question here is, if you all know that he's full of shit why do you all listen to him?
If his redeeming qualities outweigh his problems, fine keep him around, but the choice is yours as to whether or not you want to believe him or let what he says effect you or your relationship with your friends.
If you all want to buy into his shit stirring then I would have to say he isn't the only drama queen in the house.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.