i have a couple of things......1.i just masterbated and in the cum i found blood!! i dk if this is my period or wut but it really light and its kinda freaking me out!!!2.the "lips" of my pusst have become bigger, and so has the skin around my clit. i am afriad and i want it to go away because my boyfriend will be fingering me soon and it will be his and my first time. 3. i am afriad sex will not feel good becuz i have have masterbated for so long and i can only orgasm when i have a viberation of some sort. i would be embaressing if i couldnt have an orgasm the first time. plez help thanks!!
I didn't cum the first time I recieved a handjob, headjob or the first time I had sex. It's not embarassing, some people are just harder to please than others. I doubt most women cum during their first sexual experiences anyway.Besides, he will be more embarrassed, because he'll feel like he failed to please you.
ok WHY is it that young people think they are less of a person if they don't, or can't get someone off these days!!!!Usually getting someone to orgasm, take a bit of knowing what someone likes.......i certainly didn't get off the first time me and the manthing were together, and probably not for a while after cos im hard work LOL apparently.......however i was never embarrassed, and neither was he.There are no written rules that you have to orgasm the first time you are together, or any time you are together for that matter......talk about putting pressure on yourself!!!!1 - nothing to worry about2- the more you get aroused the more blood rushed to the area and its swells, like a man getting an erection3- lots of women get off on vibration, only a small percent (according to the program i was watching the other day it was like 30%) of women orgasm through penetration, so some kinda clitoral stimulations is a must for most women be it rubbing or like yourself vibraton - when you and your BF are relaxed enough maybe then he could use something vibrating on/with you to get you off.
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Being a guy I'll not respond to your first question but will the last two.>>>"the "lips" of my pusst have become bigger, and so has the skin around my clit. i am afriad and i want it to go away because my boyfriend will be fingering me soon and it will be his and my first time."First let me say that he more than likely isn't going to know enough to know any difference, much less notice it. Second if he's gettin' to play with the kitty, even in the unlikely event he did notice, he isn't gonna care. He's just gonna be happy he's there.>>>"i am afriad sex will not feel good becuz i have have masterbated for so long and i can only orgasm when i have a viberation of some sort. i would be embaressing if i couldnt have an orgasm the first time."As was previously said most women don't orgasm from penetration alone and most guys don't know enough about fingering to to get ya there either, at least not when they're your age...(I'm assuming teens)... I sure didn't. It's nothing to be embarrassed about.Peruse through several of the threads on this board and there are plenty of tips on how to communicate your needs and desires with your partner better, so that you may reach an orgasm as well.
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