Ahh. what to talk about?

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What do you talk about on the phone with your g/f when you've been going out for months and know basically everything about them (you were best friends before you dated)?

Because my g/f is freaking out w/e we have silence and Idk what to say...

You can always start with "How was your day?".Me and my boyfriend no longer spend time on the phone. We chat online. He and I are silly and we'll always find something stupid to talk about. Even though we have been together for a long while now, we somehow still have conversations that make us both laugh.We talk about movies, TV shows, games, "adult" stuff ( ), and anything else at random. Sure, there are times of silence, but we don't freak out about. Sometimes, it's nice to take a break from talking so much, lol.Try talking about each other's day, things in common, tell jokes, or anything else. In time, it will almost become second nature. But don't freak out about silence every one in a while.

Thank you. But my g/f does freak out (the type where she wants to talk to somebody else...not sure if relationship is good) type of freak-out. but any other time we're perfect together. this is just occasionally.

That seems normal.Try to reasure her that you don't find her boring or uninteresting. Let her know that your relationship is still great and being silent on the phone here and there doesn't always mean trouble. As long as the both of you are happy together, then there's nothing wrong.

dude, i totaly know what you mean! I'm talkign to my girlfriend on msn today, we dont speak to each other for like...i dunno, not even 5 minutes, and she thinks i am mad at her and she's bugging me! what is that? I mean come on!and VS ""adult" stuff" like what?

Originally Posted By: rvbapocalypseand VS ""adult" stuff" like what? You know, CNN news, golf, and early American literature........Sex, what do you think, lol!

i was totaly thinkign the early american literature thing, or animal planet at the least, yes, no better topic than sex, i love it.

I just talked random shit or ask what we would do tomorrow/weekend and just flirt with her more, but alas those days are goe as I'm single again. lol

you know whats fun. haha text sex. it gets really interesting.

thanks guys. it kind of got better because i didn't let more than 30 seconds go by silently for the last couple of days. i probably came of sounding like a dumb ass b/c i would bring up the most random things or quotes from people of my day or w/e (sounds weird...things people said that i thought was funny) but it sounded...forced.

and today she didn't make the place she wanted at speech and feels she's not good at anything. i told her that she'll find something and that she's the most perfect, beautiful girlfriend in the world. and so she wouldn't answer the phone (crying) so she said that she was going to go for a walk (and we live...down the road a couple blocks away from each other)

so i walked "at" her house and met her, bundled up, with headphones on, crying. i just stopped her and hugged her for a min gave her a kiss on the forehead and wiped away a tear. then she ...motioned let's go so we walked and i...couldn't really think of what to say...seems to be a reoccurring theme in our relationship and it ruins moments. so we were just walking and i'd force out something dumb and she'd be like "no" so i didn't have much to go on, and i know how much she hates silence/boredom. i didn't know what to say due to coming off: cheesy, mean, forced, or boring. as in, i didn't want to say anything to make it worse/hurt her feelings but i personally hate it when people are like "happy day, cheer up, tom. will be better" so i didn't want to do that...so i basically had nothing else. we have no classes together or anything to share about each other's day after about 5 min into the convo, and i just...run out of ideas.

any way to deal with situations like these. this will pass, but next time that it occurs, it will arise again. how do i keep a conversation flowing when i don't want to blurt something out that will make her think "what a jerk"

(btw, we've been going out for almost 5 mo. and have known each other almost 2 years and have common friends...not much to discuss about each other's lives when we've stayed up for HOURS endless nights on the phone asking random questions.)

mainly for the girls:and also, she's a little overweight and got (depressed|angry|sad...idk) last night when i bought her reese's at the concessions stand. idk how to deal with this. by giving her candy (little, really) she freaks out, but shouldn't it show her that i Don't think that she's overweight and that i'm thinking about her by buying them? it makes me paranoid to buy her anything food-related (although i know some of her favs) because i don't know if she'll be happy about it that day, or angry because her doctor is crazy and told her to lose so much weight in an ungodly small amount of time...

Um, she's probably thinking you think she's fat, because you bought her Reeses... Since Reeses, in her mind, and fat people food, are fat people eat when they are depressed... But don't buy her anything when she's sad. That's stupid, girls don't want you to solve their problems. If she wants to talk about it, just say, "mmmhm, I'm sorry that sucks, mmmhm..." Or, if she's done talking about it, take her somewhere really fun, and make her forget about it... Which, keep in mind, isn't a cure-all and sometimes just doesn't work. Also, get her feeling good about herself by exercising with her, which will also make her more cheerful (you should see me when I haven't jogged, I am damn MEAN).

hey nothing wrong with cheesy people, I'm one of them and every girl I've meet loves those cheesy sayings xD (although I am a sweet talker so it works in my favor :P)