ok ive liked this girl for a while now, so i told her how i felt nd she told me "i like u to but im not lookin for a relationship" so i said yea ok then, just deciding to move on. but then the next day she texted me during a lesson nd said "meet me its important" so i went and she tried putin the lips on me, but becos of what she sed i was confused nd backed off without thinkin. then for like 2 weeks she was distant wif me, then on msn she was sayin things like "forget me am not worth the trouble, move on" so i thought i could, but then on valentines day she text me to meet her so i did nd we ended up back at her house and we finally kised, but now shes just totally confused me becasue she says she dosent wnt a realtionship but then does things like that? any1 got any idea wots shes doin here? shud i keep at it or move on?
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OK am confused
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Well it sounds like she was caught a bit off guard at first and didn't really know what to think, so she gave you the relationship line as a stalling tactic. So she then had time to think about it and came to the conclusion that she liked you and wouldn't mind going out with you.But when you backed off after she tried to kiss you, she probably felt that she missed her oppertunity and that you thought she was weird or something. So her message to you on MSN was her way of appologising, but it also strongly hinted that she really does like you. You're obviously in her head cause she brought you back to her place.So, in my opinion, she likes you. Did she say that she wasn't looking for a relationship just once, when you told her your feelings? Because if so, then she obviously just needed time to think and now you have your chance.
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I agree with bob. I'd also add that "forget me am not worth the trouble, move on" from a woman always means "I want you to stay and reassure me".
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I also concur with Ineligible.
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so what do u guys think would be the best aproach now?
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Ok, I want to tell you that you should be a little more confident with her and tell her that you really like her. I think that its very easy for people in a situation like this to doubt the other person. I mean from what you have said, you doubt if she has any feelings for you. ANd I think from the way that you have told us that she has acted, she has feelings for you too. And she might be afriad to express them to you because she isnt sure if they are really there. But when you arent there any more (for those two weeks) she really realizes that she has feelings for you.I say do something with just the two of you, maybe at your house or her house, and tell her how you really feel about her, and that you think that she is very special, and you really like her a lot, enough for her to be your girlfriend =PIm sure that if you are flattering, that she will 1) appreciate that and 2) express her own feelings for you.
