i came home today and my room was more clean. my mom said she had cleaned it. and normally when kids hear me say my mom cleans my room. well it actually sucks: she constantly says she cleans my room because she's tired of seeing it in its "condition" except, 1. she has no reason to go in my room in the first place. and 2. my door is alway sshut so she cant say that she "SAW IT" walking bye and then when she DOES clean it. i'm always not home, so she can do A THURROW search and she "cleans" everywhere like my purses? wtf? who the fuck cleans out a purse?So i noticed in one of my make up bag purse things in a drawer had nothing in it. when it had my old stuff from when i tried out smoking cigs and pot. And i didn't like it at all so i hid it cuz i had nothing to do with it.she hasn't talked to me about it, and its happened before where she took like 5 of my lighters i had hidden. and didn't give them back. Didn't tell me she took them, didn't even talk to me about it.Me and my best friend were talking about how its hard for me to approach her and tell her anything. I don't know what to do, i've done some pretty bad things. and stuff but nothing to deserve her to blow up on me everytime.But the thing is anytime i tell my mom how i feel about how she acts or her actions she says "oh i guess i'm a horrible mom thanks a lot." And all this bullshit to give me guilt trips. My best friend says i should just tell her "yes you've been a horrible mom and i cant talk to you because you dont respect my privacy as a teenager"
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My mom is driving me insane lately
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it seems she doesn't trust me, when she doesn't find anything out with out invading my privacy. and she lies to me and is like "i trust you"and i know she does this on purpose is because she did the same thing with my older brother. "oh can you find stuff about him i'll reward you if you do" I'm sick of her, SICK OF HER
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She doesn't even bother asking anything about me except anything about school. she says she loves me. but it sure doesn't seem like it. although she probably does. She just buys me lots of shit, then when we talked about depression she said "i was too spoiled to be depressed" yeah a good mom? what kind of mom says they're kid is too fucking spoiled to be depressed. because being spoiled has nothing to do with it. just because my brother is a party animal she thinks i'm going to be the same way. Well i'm like half as bad as him. and even if i've smoked pot 3 times, doesn't mean i want to do it anymore. and plus her son, my BROTHER bought the cigs cuz he didn't want to "smoke alone" when he was visiting. and i usually only did like one drag when i was drinking with my friends. It was just something i tried. i haven't done it in more than 2-3 months.
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Originally Posted By: HelmsmaNSorry if this sounds harsh, I don't intend this to be mean, just a solid reality check intended to (maybe) get you to consider where you're at, why, and what you can do to improve the situation. I know i've gone down the wrong path and all(having sex at an early age. doing a lot of drugs..she has no idea about a lot of it...& the drugs do not include marijuana) but her doing this stuff just makes it worse and makes me more stressed than i already am.