I love her

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If I were you, I would send her an e-mail (or a letter since it would seem a little more personal).First thing I would explain is that you're not angry at her or upset with her (even if you are upset or angry with her, it will make her more willing to listen to what you have to say). Just tell her that if someone can derail the friendship between the two of you so easily, it's probably best that the two of you go your separate ways. Then I would explain that you enjoyed the times you shared together and you hope that whatever happens, remember to never let anyone manipulate her.Either she'll ignore it completely, or it will start to make her think. If she starts to think, then that gives her a fighting chance at someone who may be trying to mess with her head.This gives you the chance to move on, and I think you should take the chance. For myself, I try not to walk away from a person I once cared about without first leaving something positive as a last thing to remember me by.

Well, its been a long time since this topic started, we both got split apart, but now we are closer then ever. and it seems everything is good, im keeping our relation to a friendship for a bit longer, because her life is going unsteadily, and i want to be there for her,m and a relationship is probably a bad idea at this moment, mainly because her ex Shayn, the one who ruined it between us. well, Summer and i went to the movies with a few friends, and shayn was one of them, she asked him back out, he said no, etc... then She cried, so the rest of the night was ruined... we hung out like 5 hours after this, she was so sad the whole night. but its bs, and she told me yesterday on msn, that shayn is the only boy she wants in her life, and that she cant have him. =[

yo! move on!that girl deserves nothing from you!stop being a bitch!you need to work on your self esteem before anything else, so if anything, return her the favor, and put her on the receiving end of what she has been using you for!

Wow. Dude. Seriously.What happened to your spine and balls? Did you sell them so you could buy this bitch some food?I don't wanna be harsh here, but you REALLY need to take a step back and realise what the hell is going on here!She is playing you - BIGTIME. There are girls around that do this. Some do it unintentionally, but some, like this one, do it because they think it's funny to have a nice long, warm slash on some poor guy's heart. I always say this, but I have plenty of experience here - that girls have admitted they do it. They say that it's funny to see a guy crawl on their hands and knees after them when they have no interest.You are a premium extra-large cuddle bitch with a side order of no testicles.Honestly you need to tell her to go away and to leave you alone forever. And I mean it. It's the only way.Without wanting to steal your thunder, I shall refer back to the story I joined up for all 6 years ago or whatever it was! (Man that's a long time)Me and an "acquaintance" (I never really liked the guy) were both set up with girls at the same time. The one I was set up with was rougher than 40grit sandpaper. It lasted 3 days before she dumped me for a nerd (talk about a confidence killer!). The one the other guy was set up with was a stunner. I mean she was really fantastic, and nice and kind and ideal. Although she was very very stupid.Anyhow I became single and this other girl started paying me all this attention. It sucked cos she was with this other guy (who treated her like crap - he paid guys to follow her around to see what she got up to). She told me she loved me, but she loved the other guy more. She sucked me in and I became her relentless cuddle bitch.I even took "erotic photos" of her so she could show them to her boyfriend. HOW MESSED UP IS THAT?!In the end I told her I loved her and she went crazy and turned all my friends against me. I tried to kill myself that night. My friends came to save me and I cut contact with her.Roll on one year and she starts speaking to me again (she's single now after her guy dumped her because she was quite clingy). I get sucked in again and the same happens. I stop talking to her again.Another 2 years later she starts talking to me again. We get closer than ever, she kisses me a couple of times and some other stuff. I ask her out - she says she has to think about it. Next day she calls me and says she doesn't know what to do, because she's been sleeping with some guy for 6 months and she thinks she's pregnant. Turns out she's not and she has left this guy. I ask her if I have a chance and she says no. I get the hell away.It's been another 2 years since then, and I haven't spoken to her once - she's trying to contact me through my friends. Am I gonna talk back?! HELL NO. Why? Because I grew my balls and spine back and I'm not taking any crap anymore (also she actually did have a kid in the end).Sorry for the essay but you need to realise that you're being played.Do yourself a favour and remove her from your life for good.

Wow, thanks for the stories, but she is a best friend to me, nothing more, and I really don't do nice shit for her anymore, or buy her anything, ever since I quit caring, she has gotten even closer to me, she got over her ex, and I think she wants a relationship, but im so ready to tell her no. =]She deserves one thing from me, that is support, nothing more. I will be her friend, nothing more. At this point in time, if I really wanted to I could play her so badly, I know how I could too, but I would never do that, I don't have the heart to.

withmyheart, if you want to change your life around, you should listen to me, at first your going to want to deny what i'm about to tell you because you've lived in a life of lies for so long. you are one of the many people that need a rude awakening from what your current beliefs are. i had to learn this the hard way and it's been very painful for me.

this girl, judging by your post, i'm going to assume that she's afairly popular girl that's pretty good looking. she doesn't seem to be wanted by all the guys in the school and she gives you attention more than any other current girl... am i right? your problem is that you are putting her on a pedestal. This is not the right way of thinking. If you worship her and give all the attention, she will slowing loose interest in you and do the opposite of what you're intending to do. To make sure that you somewhat relate to what i'm talking about, have you had a phase where the more attention you gave her and the more you wanted her, the further she seemed to be? that's the ways girls are. You should be putting yourself on a pedestal and make her attracted to you. How do u do this u ask? Be awesome. it's that simple.... not really though.

oh and, just give up on the girl, you have "oneitis" and the best way to get over it is to just forget her and make the right moves on the next girl. but i mean if you want to, you can ask this girl if she lies you or not...but i'm betting that there is a 99% chance that she's not interested you. She will give you the words "i just like you as a friend". then you're going to dwell on her for a long time, until the next girl that gives you attention comes along and the same process happens all over again. i'm not trying to be mean, but by reading your post, i can tell exactly what kind of guy you are. AFC - average fustrated chump - the kind of guy that believes he'll win over girls with kindness, poetry, flowers, attention, and caring about her feelings. FVCK all of that, she has all of her girlfriends to care about and deal with her feellings and shit, so what separates you from the girls that care about her?

The truth is, to attract a girl is VERY simple, yet very difficult at the same time. It is very biological. it is simply being MASCULINE. think about it, are you more attracted to a girl that's a cheerleader and has a smooth small body?, or that plays football, and has a rough large body? of course choice number 1, because she is more FEMALE. the same concept applies for guys. girls are attracted to MASCULINE guys.

now this girl, 1st of all, you do not lover her, you've created a false image of her because she is the only girl that you feel you have a chance with. you need to man up and not take shit from any girl. become more involved in everything and act like you the king of the school. it's not as easy as i just explained it, but i don't want to make this post TOO long...

the key is to make yourself the prize and not the girl. always remember that there are TONS of other girls out there that are BETTER than your current one. and NEVER become so emotionally attached to a girl that you cannot simply walk away. ( this is what you have done )

reading what you have posted gave me a deep chill down my spine reminding me of how my life used to be and how much of a fool i was back then. it's pretty hard to give you all the information you need in one post, so here is a website: "sosuave.com" on the left side of the site, click on discussion forums, and click high school forums. then, the 2nd or third link down, it says high school bible or something like that, and click that link. read EVERY post on this page and believe it. it will change your life. it is true and not something that has been twisted by our blind society.

best wishes for you in the future man...

and i obviously rushed on this post and was not able to give you very detailed information, so if you want to know more, or if i didn't explain something very well, PM me.

i sorta took that post to the max, it's just that i was hurt so bad before, and i don't want anyone to go through what i went through... and always to remember to protect your heart.

oh wow, i replied to this post a while back didn't i? lol i just read ur first post and i went OMFG!!!

but it looks like ur situation is over isn't it? well, i don't want all that work to go to waste, so i won't delete that huge ass post

Well gyus, I took your advice, I found an even better girl, she is nice, caring, pretty, and makes summer look bad. =]I'm so glad I did, and now I have Summer as a friend, but not how our friendship used to be.It's so great! Thanks for the advice, over the past months I learned to be more persistant and never settle for less then the best. =]

Great to hear, withmyheart!

Thanks Ineligible, it feels good now, and I have totally outgrown her now, I don't feel the same for her anymore. =]