How do I ask to finger her?

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7 months, no sex (don't want it), done everything possible above the waist, dry humping too. We love us.I want to explore further down. I know that she's never been with anyone as close as she is to me. (she told me) How do I ask her that I want to feel down there? How do I set the mood?

After lots of kissing and other stuff she likes up top, just move your fingers southward. She'll stop you if she doesn't want it.

From the voice of experience; I second that recommendation...I don't think you'll have many problems.While you're down there too, don't just go for the gusto right away, go ahead and tease before you dive in.Also, when fingering her, try to cradle her clitoris between your fingers, pay more attention on the vulva rather than a straight-out finger bang.

since you didn't meantion how experianced you are yourself, I would suggest clipping your finger nails so you don't have any sharp edges that could catch on her and scratch her.

Who are you replying to? Sound advice either way; thankfully for me, I've never scratched a womans vagina.

my bf and i were where u and ur gf are right now not to long ago it seems 2 me......as far as from an unexperienced girls perspective...id ask her...or at least bring up the topic b4 hand...then go about it however you please...but i think u might wanna ask her if shes ok with it and give her some time to think about it b4 your actually go for it...my bf and i tyred oral b4 we were ready....(we thought we were ready, but i didnt think it all the way threw b4 hand....and it really freaked me out after we were done...the thing was i was fine giveing it to him...but it really scared/ freaked me out that he did it to me...i let how much i loved/love him cloud my desition on wheather or not i was ready for that step...i figured that it would be fine and i just needed to get it over with...kinda like riping off a bandaid) my point is that if she dosent have time to actually think it over she may think shes ready and end up getting freaked out...good luck 2 u

Sounds good and as far as experience for me, that is zero. I've never done all this before. Seen it in porn but never...
I'm all for just asking her but how do I slide into a conversation like that and bring it up?
I don't even know if she ever worked on herself before. She probably has but I don't know.
She has orgasmed before with me when we've dry humped (sitting on my lap) but she's never touched herself with me.

I wouldnt ask myself. Its a odd topic to bring up. I would slowley try it, moving my hands down slow adn easy, stopping along the way to play with shit and unbuttoning her pants or sliding them up under her skirt. If she wants you to stop shes gonna let ya know, If she wants you to stop I suggest stopping and not laboring the point or asking her or begging her. Sex shouldnt have to be planned out, I dont ask my woman if she wants some dick, I simply try to work her up and give it to her, if shes not inteh mood she lets me know, If she starts it I cant ever recall not being in the mood myself.

Take a lesson from bar owner, Moe Sizlak

"Jeez! I dunno how to talk to women,
but I really wanna finger ya"

You can't fail

I understand what you two are saying (Grvtykllr and buzzie69)… it is much hotter and less awkward when you just do it, its that element of surprise that adds a little extra zest to it….but then again you are speaking with the voice of experience…I mean it sounds as though you both are adults who have had sexual relationships multiple times in the past….but if I am right this gye (NewToThis) is just as his name says ,new to this…probably a teenager in his mid-teens…seeing as though I am pretty close to this age group and experience level not to long ago….(less than 6months ago) I would advise him to bring it up…even if it is just saying something like “would you be ok with it if we moved forward”…just to give her a bit of a heads up….And in response to you, NewToThis, I would just bring it up by asking her how she thinks things have been going between the two of you as far as physically….and then just ask her if she would be comfortable moving forward…and just take the conversation from there….I think that she will really appreciate the fact that you are asking her opinion, and respond accordingly. I know I did…it made me feel like he respected me as a person and that he wasn’t just trying to “get in my pants” so to speak...hope this helps

I know that it would be spontainous if we just got into it and moved my hand down there but I would rather ask then have her stop me. She does have boundries and we've been progressing well and I don't want to ruin it. Curious does makes a good point. She has had another boyfriend but she broke it off two years ago because all he wanted was "to get in her pants". He only wanted that and not her. I'm not for sex right now anyway. I'm 23 and I've lived a very sheltered life until now. What is a little more time if I wait for sex?

Although there is no worry about you just being after sex; you don't want to come off as uninterested, or being prudish.It's always nice to ask, but there is a point where you have to have independence and take the lead; that conveys confidence, and spontaneous nature of the act may please her (Rather than asking play-by-play, which is akin to seeing what gift you're going to get before it's wrapped)