Would i be considered a slut?

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ok my bf really wants to have sex with me and i kind of want to also but i was talking with my sister and she said that i would be a slut if i did have sex with him since i'm only 15. my friend also said that if i had sex with him i would have no dignity.i just wanted to know if i did would i be a slut? and since i'm only 15 how far should i go with him that's okay?

Do what you think is right. In my opinion, having sex at 15 is too early. But nobody can tell you what to do, it's your choice. And don't just do it b/c your boyfriend wants too. He should not be pressuring you to have sex.

there is alot of things that can go into this...a girl that is fucking her boyfriend ..is doing that. F*n her bf. i don't see my gf as a slut cuz she does it with me. (now if i found out she was runnign around fuckign 5 others guys too... then yea. i;d say she was a slut (and a chaeater! lol) but that's not her. (I HOPE!!!) it might not be a slut thing with ur sister (is she older?) it maybe a trying to worn u or protect you or somthing.. i mean if this is your first bf and he's saying lets have sex and you really don't want too.(kinda want too isn't the same as i want too, kinda means u have some doughts{2 me anyway}).... that's not a good thing. I don't know ANYTHING about your boyfriend. i don't know if he wants to have sex and got on to the next girl (i have a bro that does that) OR if he really likes u. i dk him... so i dk. slut ( http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/slut )A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous. A woman prostitute. A slovenly woman; a slattern. slut ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slut )sexually promiscuous ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Promiscuity )

I personally think 15 is too young, but like mentioned above, it is ultimately your own decision. I understand a lot of people are losing their virginity earlier, but I think it would be better to wait. If you are adament about it (which it sounds like only your bf is- redflag!), make sure you are safe. Even condoms with their extremely high effecive rate can sometimes backfire, leaving you with the possibility to get pregnant. If you are not ready for that consequence, I would urge you to wait. It would not make you a slut, as you are in a monogamous relationship with your bf (hopefully). But keep in mind that a lot of girls wish they had waited until they were older. I made the choice to wait until I was at least 18. Now at 22, I'm still wondering if I made the right decision. I'm not upset that I'm no longer a virgin, but I often wish I had waited until I was with someone I was truly in love with (although I thought I was at the time).Think hard about it. If you decide against having sex with him, there are always other things you can do to please each other in similar ways. Its always better than having an unplanned little one at such a young age.Hope it helped!

Quote: but i was talking with my sister and she said that i would be a slut if i did have sex with him since i'm only 15. my friend also said that if i had sex with him i would have no dignity. why does someone elses opinion of you matter so much? be yourself. 15 IS pretty young,but its up to YOU what you wanna do there.

I had sex at 16 (I had just turned 16) in September 06, and I am definitely not a slut for having it. However I would recommend that you wait. Even though I am in love with my boyfriend, I didn't know him that well and I wish I would have waited. At least until we had been dating longer or until I was 17 or 18. It was my idea though (he was all for it, he didn't bring it up though), but sometimes you just don't think straight. Make sure you take into consideration that your virginity is very special. You can never get it back, so don't have sex with the first guy you think you are in love with. Just wait a while. Also make sure you're on birth control and preferably use condoms too.

Hello there. This is my first time posting but I hope I can be some help with your question.Now, you say that your boyfriend really wants to have sex and you kind of also? To me, that sounds like you're not sure about having sex and I encourage you to think about that more. But what worries me more is that, according to your other post you made (I need kiss help), you and your boyfriend have been together less than two weeks. Personally, I think that is WAY too soon to start having sex and especially at such a young age.However, like the other posters said, the ultimate decision is up to you. And if you do end up having sex, please use protection. You don't want to be a teenage mother. Have your boyfriend use a condom and you should look into getting on a birth contol method. And also, please don't have sex just because your boyfriend "really wants to". Being pressured into sex is not a great way to start a relationship and you will regret having sex later. So, I highly encourage you into thinking about this a LOT more. And I also encourage you talking to you boyfriend about this, like how you feel, about using protection and the possibility that you may become pregnant.And now to your question: "i just wanted to know if i did would i be a slut?"If you are in a monogamous relationship with your current boyfriend, then no, I don't think you're a slut. Having sex with your partner is your decision and no one else has a right to call you a nasty name for it.However, since you are in high school, there is something you may want to think about. High school is a place where rumors and gossip spreads faster than wildfire. And if somehow word got out if a girl had sex, a lot of people label her as a slut. Personally, when I was in high school, there was a lot of rumors about other girls having sex and were labled as sluts. There were even a couple of pregnant girls at my school and got a lot of ugly stares. I am not saying that this will happen to you and maybe this doesn't happen at your school, but it's something to think about if you are so worried about what other people think about you (even though you shouldn't).What your sister said may have been a bit harsh but I'm sure that she say it out of worry and love without thinking about what she called you. Same thing goes for your friend. Again, having sex is a personal decision that you need to take a lot of time thinking about.I hope my blabbing helped you in some way. I wish you the best of luck! ^_^

Welcome to A2A, Virtual_Star! What a very good fisrt post, and well done for spotting that the relationship was so new - I think that's very significant.

Originally Posted By: Virtual_StarHello there. This is my first time posting but I hope I can be some help with your question.Now, you say that your boyfriend really wants to have sex and you kind of also? To me, that sounds like you're not sure about having sex and I encourage you to think about that more. But what worries me more is that, according to your other post you made (I need kiss help), you and your boyfriend have been together less than two weeks. Personally, I think that is WAY too soon to start having sex and especially at such a young age.However, like the other posters said, the ultimate decision is up to you. And if you do end up having sex, please use protection. You don't want to be a teenage mother. Have your boyfriend use a condom and you should look into getting on a birth contol method. And also, please don't have sex just because your boyfriend "really wants to". Being pressured into sex is not a great way to start a relationship and you will regret having sex later. So, I highly encourage you into thinking about this a LOT more. And I also encourage you talking to you boyfriend about this, like how you feel, about using protection and the possibility that you may become pregnant.And now to your question: "i just wanted to know if i did would i be a slut?"If you are in a monogamous relationship with your current boyfriend, then no, I don't think you're a slut. Having sex with your partner is your decision and no one else has a right to call you a nasty name for it.However, since you are in high school, there is something you may want to think about. High school is a place where rumors and gossip spreads faster than wildfire. And if somehow word got out if a girl had sex, a lot of people label her as a slut. Personally, when I was in high school, there was a lot of rumors about other girls having sex and were labled as sluts. There were even a couple of pregnant girls at my school and got a lot of ugly stares. I am not saying that this will happen to you and maybe this doesn't happen at your school, but it's something to think about if you are so worried about what other people think about you (even though you shouldn't).What your sister said may have been a bit harsh but I'm sure that she say it out of worry and love without thinking about what she called you. Same thing goes for your friend. Again, having sex is a personal decision that you need to take a lot of time thinking about.I hope my blabbing helped you in some way. I wish you the best of luck! ^_^ She's right!I should know, cause she is always right, and I dare not defy her lol!

a slut to me is someone who will sleep with ne1 with a pulse. from your discription of the situation i wouldent put you into that catagory but one thing you may want to think about is...the amount of time you 2 have been together...i was 17 when i lost my virginity...but i had been with my bf for over a year and had know him very well for over 2 yrs....i also had thought about the holw sex thing and all the resposibilitys and possible reprocutions for 6+ months because i needed to make sure that i was personally ok with it... b4 you have sex you need to make sure that you are ok with it and that you wouldent feel like a slut if he left you (im not saying he would...im just saying its a posibility you should consider b4 juming in the sack with him)...its basicly something you need to be at peace with b4 you do so ur not going to have a break down if he turns out to be an ass hole. personally i wouldent have been able to handel the emotional stress of haveing sex when i was 15....im 17 and will occationally get freaked out that im pregnant, or that somethin else is wrong...and that stuff really srews with your head. so im inclined to say that 15 is to young...but it is up to you...just protect yourself both emotionaly and physicaly if you deside to take this step

I have a lot of other feeling about this post, but I'm going to only address the question that you asked in the subject line.

"Would you be considered a slut?" Well, the true question here would be "what is a slut?" People have different definitions of what a slut is. So, what is and what isn't is just relative.

"Do you think I'm a slut if I have sex at 15?" If you word the question this way, then I would say that in my opinion that does not make you a "slut".

There are many questions you need to ask yourself. Do you think your ready to have sex? Can you be responsible about having sex? Do you want to lose your virginity to someone that does not truly care about you? Does your boyfriend truly care about you? If he did care about you, would he mind if you waited to have sex?

At your age, most people are worried about what other people think about them. Some snap out of it and some don't. I feel that what is most important is how do you feel about yourself. If you feel like it's okay for you to have sex, then have sex. If you have some hang ups about it, then don't. Just remember, there are questions to ask yourself before taking any kind of action that may have serious consequences.

NO! A slut is someone who sleeps around.

I don't agree that a slut is someone who isn't ready for sex. A girl can be persuaded or even pushed to have sex when she isn't ready and I don't think that it would be right on any grounds to call her a slut.Also, don't worry about the age thing. I lost my virginity when I was a wee 13 years old, and although most will tell me that is extremely and ridiculously too young, I knew that was the time that I wanted to go to that level. It all is about you. Forget your boyfriend. In all honesty the only thing that matters is if you feel you are ready. Not if your boyfriend wants you, or if society thinks the age is too young. You will know without a doubt when you are ready, and that first time with that special person will be so amazing it'll set a precedent for almost every sexual encounter you'll have for years to come.

It's not so much what 'society' thinks as a whole; it's more of the fact that we've all been here before. There are a great deal of people here who had sex at a young age, and later on realized it was a foolish decision.

You're not going to get lectured by any nuns here; just older teenagers and adults who're trying to save you the negative emotions and repercussions that they've experienced.

As a retired slut Im highley offended at your accusation adn characterization.
I didnt fuck any girl with a pulse, I fucked the ones I deemed hot enough. Sometimes my judgment was clouded by booze or weed, but at the time I jumped thier bones, I tought they were attractive. I didnt fuck alot of girls I could have, simply because they were nto appealing to me. I turned down many girls because of various reasons besides not meeting my physical attractiveness standards. I never fucked a drunk girl, atleast nto if it was the first time I was going to be with her, if we had already fucked once before than her being drunk didnt stop me from stabbing away at her with my pork sword. I didnt fuck girls I had come to think of as friends even though I had the oppertunity to do so.
a simple pulse was not enough. I know I wa a slut, no question about it.

Quote:if we had already fucked once before than her being drunk didnt stop me from stabbing away at her with my pork sword ahhh, the imagery

The best part is that its not just how I write on various forums and blogs, its how I talk.
Its much better to hear it in person as you dont pick up on my typos and spelling when I speak it, not to mention I can emphasise certain words adn phrases for a stronger affect.
It is the reason I belive people love to be around me and why Im so fucking popular when I show up to a party.

> stronger affect

That's a pretty funny typo, if you're into psychology.

Im not to a large degree, I wil however point it out to julie when she gets home, shes taking the class currently. I suppose if my typos really bothered me Id use the spellchecker, its nto like its unavailable to me, I just dont really give a shit currently.

Use Firefox 2.0. It's built in. Same for Opera, but I don't think it's bulit in.

In psychology, "affect", a noun, means "mood".