I am an uncircumcised guy and I have always had sex with a condom until about a year ago. I'm 21 years old and now we're having unprotected sex. Ever since we started having unprotected sex it has been very difficult for me to last long. Sometimes its bad and it can be only 20 seconds, worse case scenario at the beginning of penetration. It sucks because after foreplay I can't even last long during our love making.
Well the thing is when we had protected sex my foreskin was pulled back inside the condom and it was not that bad of a feeling. Now she loves having unprotected and yes, I do too, but we have tried almost everything for me to last longer that way. We're getting married next year and I don't want it to be a permanent problem. The head of my penis is not sensitive at all, like some uncircumcised guys. Its just the skin to skin contact and her juices from her vagina that really turn me on and make me want to come. Its uncontrollable and now when we DO use condoms, I still get the same crazy feeling and same arousal that it makes me want to come and I can't do anything to control it. She says its all psychological and "in the mind" but there's nothing I can do about it. Sometimes when we have sex with a condom I come inside the condom and just keep going at it anyways until my penis is no longer erect. But still, it should not be that way because when I was a couple years younger I used to be able to last a LONG TIME. I don't masturbate often - actually hardly ever, but when I do masturbate, I usually end up coming within the first 5-10 mins. Even if I masturbate and stop, then start then stop for like 30 mins it doesn't help at all. I usually masturbate in the shower with the warm water running on the head of my penis.
Any body have some advice as to what I should do? :confused: I've tried numerous techniques, doing it slow (how we like it, but I still end up blowing up) I've read up on books. We've tried cock rings, that seemed to delay the process a little bit, but still after a little while I still came, we've tried the start and stop, the pinching of the head, hell I even tried of thinknig of nasty thoughts. All have been unsuccessful. I was considering seeing a sex therapist or even a hypnotist... any help would be appreciated.