Hey all, it's been a while, but I wasn't sure where to turn, so I'm back.My gf of 2 weeks, which isn't long, but we're very intimate together (not sexually), is getting pestered off some guy called Shaun. During her last relationship, with a guy called James which lasted a year, she had a crush on Shaun. When her and James split up in October, Shaun wanted nothing to do with her. Well, now she's got me, he's started again. On route to our usual place, she got a text saying he was at a resteraunt and thinking of her. Then, while we were making out, I felt her phone vibrate and it was him ringing her. She answered and said 'Hi Shaun, look I'm just with Stan at the minute.' I didn't hear what he said on the other end, but I'm pretty sure it was about his feeling for her.Now look, I'm really worried about this. I love this girl to pieces, and this guy is stressing her out, and I'm paranoid that she's going to start liking him again. Why is this bastard being such a jerk when she has a bf? I don't know this guy, but she goes away each easter to some camp thing, and I'm worried he's going to be there, and I'm not, and she's going to fall for him.Grr...I'm not sure what kind of support or response I'm looking for here. Anything would be appreciated, I just needed to vent.Stan
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Issues with my girlfriend
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It seems to happen the other way too. When I am single girls don't even talk to me, but when I'm with someone, they are all flirting with me.. it is very stressful. You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel and make sure she has no feelings for him and that you would hate to lose her. You can also talk to him and tell him that you and her are together and you that you don't like him calling her and all. She is your g/f and he needs to understand that. It may not be a good idea to threaten him, but that's up to you.
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shit this forum is faster at replying than it used to be!I see your point, but I'm worried that if i tell her about me worrying, she might thing that I'm looking for excuses to end our relationship. I don't know I'm paranoid about the whole thing. I have no idea who this guy is, I'm not even sure if he goes to our school. I certainly wouldn't go threatening him, but I'd be worried that if i start being a dick to him, he will try and ruin things more.When she was going out with James, he was constantly on her back telling her that 'you should leave james, you'll only get hurt'Stan
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Heh, I like this place so I'm usually on. How would caring about your relationship be looking for an excuse to end it? At least she will know you care about her and don't wanna lose her. I didn't mean be a dick, but if you did talk to him, make it a calm, civil discussion. Hopefully he lives no where near you so she wouldn't date him, but did she end the relationship with James b/c of this guy or some other reason?
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Good question...one that I may start that convo with. Thanks for the advice! and yeah this place is great...i can't honestly remember why i left.
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Heh NP. Post back how things go.
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Well I think you should tell her how you feel towards her, if you cant tell her face to face then tell her in a letter, and as for that other guy you should tell him to F*** Off!
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hey, if you need a hit, i got contacts that know some contancts that know some relatives of contancts that know the hitman, if he give you trouble, send me the stats. no money until the job is done, lol.
(jk)
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It sounds like this guy is the sort who can't handle a relationship, but gets jealous of people who can.I think it's reasonable to expect your gf to give Shaun an uncompromising rejection. If she won't do that, the relationship is doomed.It would also be reasonable for you to deliver the same message to Shaun.
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Originally Posted By: GostNinjaIt seems to happen the other way too. When I am single girls don't even talk to me, but when I'm with someone, they are all flirting with me.. it is very stressful. You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel and make sure she has no feelings for him and that you would hate to lose her. You can also talk to him and tell him that you and her are together and you that you don't like him calling her and all. She is your g/f and he needs to understand that. It may not be a good idea to threaten him, but that's up to you. This has to do with self condifidence, when you are i na relationship then you have confidence, when your signle you dont, just carry your head higher. ANYWAYS. DON't threaten him. Talk to your girl ask her how she feels, ask her if she wants to end it and go after him, besides its two weeks and its etter she goes then you haev to stress about her loyalty. Secondly, if she wants to stay, all you can do is trust her, relationships are about trust, if you cant trust her then you cant have a healthy relationship.
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I would fuck that guys ass up!