How to... not masturbate?

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It's been kind of hard to not feel guilty about taking an even slightly "conservative" Stance on Intercourse lately... The reason being that sexually speaking i know for a fact i'm no different then anyone else. [Infact, i'm probably more promiscuous then most other males, i just dont joke about "All things sexual" in school] I dont particularly enjoy masturbation, Either it really isn't all that it's cracked up to be or i'm bad at it. Either way... Typically i just say to myself 'whatever' and get it over with. Sorry i'm getting off topic, Here's the thing. i dont think that intercourse of any kind is Right unless the individual is 21+. I wouldn't scold my child if at the age of 15+ he/she had sex[though i would be displeased with their poor judgement]; as i dont enjoy having that kind of power of people. But i intend to follow the example that i think is fair. But there's a problem here... i masturbate regularly! [on average, 4-6 times a week] Once again, i dont have problems with other people doing it, i just would like to know, is it POSSIBLE to live without having to engage in any sexual activity. i dont really enjoy j/o that much... [probably, not nearly as much as other people] and i just want to know if it's possible. I dont intend on being a progety [spelling :/], but in my mind i think it would be cool if i didn't feel the need to HAVE to do it. one other thing... please dont get angry at me; when i say i dont enjoy masturbating i'm not implying i have issues of depression [i'm often told by people that i'm funny: Both teachers and students] I dont enjoy masturbating as a WHOLE, because you know, it's kind of short lived, any you really lose interest afterwards; sort of wondering why you needed it to be done. Sort of like cleaning: Hey i'm clean, so why did i take a shower? Oh sorry, i thought i put this thread in masturbation, i didn't put it in MG on purpose

Its not a NEED to masturbate in the first place, you keep doing ti so you are obviously still enjoying it, but if you really want to quit then just slowly cut back, however you may start having wet dreams.

Whether it's a run of negative experiences, confict with your faith or any number of issues regarding anything sexual, you seem to be carrying an awful lot of guilt? about a natural human funtion.Have you thought about a 1 on 1 with a therapist?

Whether it's a run of negative experiencesI've never discussed masturbation with anyone other then the people on this forum. [i'm a little uncomfortable about talking about it with them, they're not like parents described on this forum.] And i've never had negative experiences, only the occasional guilt, but it generally overrides just as quickly as anything else. confict with your faith or any number of issues regarding anything sexualI'm confident masturbation doesn't send you to hell... if 96 percent of males have admited doing it atleast once... well you get the idea. No i dont think there's anything religously wrong with doing it [and 5 times a week is the general average] you seem to be carrying an awful lot of guilt? about a natural human funtion.i'm not really guilty about it, i just want to know if it's possible, because as weird as it may sound, i think it would be "cool" not to have to masturbate. [like you said, 'A natural human function" There are some individuals who are able to train themselfs not to do things, [just like people who have extreme flexibility, it can be trained]Have you thought about a 1 on 1 with a therapist?I've talked about it in an intensly vague with a few individuals. Look... when it comes to masturbating i wish i didn't have to do it, but not out of guilt or fear, and i'm certainly not guilty if i'm unable not to. Here's a similar philosophy that i have on a different topiclook... when it comes to playing the piano i wish i was good at it, but i wouldn't beat myself up about it if it simply wasn't Do-able.

Don't do it for... a month, and tell us how things go. You don't have to do it, it's a personal choice.

You can quit, i just dont see why you want to. Why do you think ti would be "cool" not to? I could stop right now, why stop though? your reasoning doesnt make sense.

Smilez: Its kind of an odd question to ask...I don’t know why a healthy male would want to abstain from any sexual release. You said that you currently masturbate almost everyday. I have to ask you this then. Why do you masturbate now? What causes you to do it? When do you do it? Where do you do it? How long does it take you to reach orgasm? Do you like that feeling when you cum? Perhaps you have never had a really good, long jack off session where you take your time and build up to that moment of release and it actually makes your toes curl up and your eyes roll back into your head, then you fall fast asleep from the overwhelming satisfied feeling of exhausting sexual release.. Perhaps you may just need to spend some uninterrupted personal quality time with yourself exploring your private parts and find the different ways to give you that toe curling, butt clenching, eyes rolling into the back of your head kind of orgasm.I believe that abstinence can lead to many emotional and physical hang ups. Just ask a priest

Its kind of an odd question to ask...I don’t know why a healthy male would want to abstain from any sexual release. You said that you currently masturbate almost everyday. I have to ask you this then. Why do you masturbate now? What causes you to do it? When do you do it? Where do you do it? How long does it take you to reach orgasm?Well i can answer all those things at once, generally i do it for one of two reasons, alot of times i'm playing a SWFPS [first person shooter] online and the discussions often get very sexual, so i find masturbating makes me less receptive to it. Secondly, sometmes when i'm in the shower i just say "Eh why not" and get it over with. The time it takes lasts between 30 seconds to 3 minutes. Lately i havn't been trying to make it something that would be extremely exiting because i never felt the need to. Do you like that feeling when you cum? I hope you dont try using this against me, but yes, a little bit; probably not as much as other people because orgasms never stuck me as something so "spectacular" Perhaps you have never had a really good, long jack off session where you take your time and build up to that moment of release and it actually makes your toes curl up and your eyes roll back into your head, then you fall fast asleep from the overwhelming satisfied feeling of exhausting sexual release.. Um... Yeh, Well That kind of defeats the purpose of your last statement that there's a medical reason behind it, but i get your point. Perhaps you may just need to spend some uninterrupted personal quality time with yourself exploring your private parts and find the different ways to give you that toe curling, butt clenching, eyes rolling into the back of your head kind of orgasm.I believe that abstinence can lead to many emotional and physical hang ups. Just ask a priest.I have a pretty interesting preist [though he is kind of full-of-himself, since his names translate to german: the annointed one] But i would never go to a preist to ask questions like that; and i'm sure few people have since the 50's, both out of fear and out of personal assumption.

Wow!

What do you mean... wow...

I think if you want to stop masturbating, then good on you.Sure, it's a natural thing, but certainly not necessary. And abstaining won't deprive you of anything other than masturbation and orgasms from masturbation. It certainly won't diminish your life in any way. In fact, there is certainly enough reason to believe that good things could come to you from developing that kind of discipline...if that's what you choose.But at the same time Roc is kind of...I repeat, kind of :/...making a good point. It sounds like masturbation to you is not what it could be. Meaning, if it is just the obligatory wank in the shower to get it over with, you my have missed out on something. At the same time, that daily 'obligatory' wank could actually be a sign that it is more of a habit/addiction/obsession or whatever. In that case, I would think it might not be a bad idea at all to abstain for a while and see what happens.At any rate, it probably won't be easy.

Well i can answer all those things at once, generally i do it for one of two reasons, alot of times i'm playing a SWFPS [first person shooter] online and the discussions often get very sexual, so i find masturbating makes me less receptive to it.Secondly, sometmes when i'm in the shower i just say "Eh why not" and get it over with. The time it takes lasts between 30 seconds to 3 minutes. Lately i havn't been trying to make it something that would be extremely exiting because i never felt the need to.Hehe where can I find this game? lol. Joking aside you make it sound like you find sexuality a chour (job - spelling?). Like when you say "eh why not and get it over with"...do it because you want to do it and if you dont feel horny or turned on then dont feel an obligation to do it. I have heard of people getting off, before going on dates or whatever so they are more focused on that, so that sounds normal, but making yourself think you need to all the time isnt maybe the best thing to do. I would say if the talk becomes hot and you start feeling like you need to masterbate then turn the game off for a bit, have some fun, and come back to the game, you might enjoy it a lot more. Who knows let the feeling build up and you could have a really good time. Let it be enjoyable not something you should hide from and dont force yourself to have feelings if they arent there.

Btw i think your making a mistake about what i said, usually when i j/o i am somewhat turned on. It's jedi knight 3, it's a terrible game; but the coding is so easy that many nerds have tweaked it to their liking, and made starkly different modifications. http://www.moviebattles.com jk3 was actually how i learned about masturbation, anywho. i hope that answers YOUR questions. And once again, the feelings are there, i just dont want them around when i'm going 'boom headshot'