Hey guys,Not that long ago, infact around the beggining of this January, i started to notice that i had feelings and 'urges' of sorts for males as well as females. After thinking about it and for a few weeks really noticing it i wanted to tell somebody.I couldnt ask my best friend, i wasnt sure how he would react and hes so amazing so i didnt want to risk it yet - i needed to build my confidence up... so i told another friend whos female and she was fine with it and we talked for a bit and she pursuaded me that my best friend would too be fine with it.So - i told him. Right from the start he accepted it however did make it clear that he wasnt gay or anything and definetly wouldnt want me to ever "come onto" him...Its been a month or two and five or so people now know... ive had a few male "crushes" since then but nothing quite serious... but for the last week or so ive really really been into my best friend... and ive began to feel awkward around him - and feel like its wrong...Im not quite sure what im asking - but i would just like some advice on how to deal with it... how to face him...Should i tell him? Should i hide it and hope it goes away?
Bisexual... and best friend
Since he has said that he's not gay and doesn't want you to come onto him, I'm afraid you have to accept it. There's little point in telling him - it would just scare him.Unrequited love is tough to deal with, and it takes a long time to go away, but eventually it does.
I suppose your right...Will have to try to distract myself with others - not too hard at my school ill tell you Might not be 'love' of sorts but it'll keep my mind off of it!
My first thought on reading your post was that your feelings for your best friend are not unlike my having a crush on a couple of married girls at work. But then I realized rather quickly that yours is complicated by a strong emotional bond that is already there. And that might be where it gets tricky for you. It might be difficult to constanly separate your "crush" or any sexual attraction to your friend from the solid emotional bond that comes through a good friendship. But if you can do that, than I would bet your friendship with him would be strengthened.As for telling him, I really don't think that is a good idea for now. He's made very clear that he's not interested and he doesn't want to be approached that way by you. Maybe a couple of years down the road when you've both had time to get used to this new thing and you've been able to maintain a respectful friendship, you can share it with him that you had a crush on him two years ago and you'll both have a good laugh.
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