hi i just turned 14.. and i have had sex like 5 times.. and 1 with guy.. always pretected.. but word got out and lots of ppl think im perv.. im not a perv.. im really not.. but now sertain girls wont go out with me.. and they dont undertsnad that i dont demand sex.. no not at all...
Am i f***ed up??
You probably shouldn't have had sex then but you can't change the past so you will have to live with those choices.
Are you using sex to hide your emotions behind, Frog?
I ask that because in previous posts you've told us you are in love with a guy, and also you had a shocking experience in May. I'm just wondering if the sex with girls has been to make you feel better, rather than being about the girls.
People can be very closed minded and I found that when I was your age that people were more so. Girls might be afraid that they'll just be one added to the list and that you only want them for sex, which apparently you don't. The girls that don't want to go out with you might just not like you in that kind of a way. Doesn't mean they aren't because of your past sexual experiences. As for being perverted...you most definately are not! Having sex with a guy doesn't make you gay or a perv. People experiment, like to try new things, see what they like. Sexuality is something that only you can determine, not others. I know my bf has done sexual things with guys at the age you are now. I am completely alright with that. You are not messed up and there is nothing wrong with you.
As a great friend of mine once said "We are at the age when we are all perverted at some point, we just need to learn to control it. They're just feelings, don't let them get the better of you." :sunglasses:
This time...I won't be just a memory....
Now's the time to fight for your Planet, Cloud!
God gets you proud before he kicks you in the ass.