Jesus Christ, this thread has some of the worst advice I've ever seen on this forum! First Shadowmage tells him to wear two condoms at the same time, now you're telling him to just pull out. rocky1985 is not an idiot, he may be overcautious about the risks involved but he is obviously not going to go in without any protection at all!rocky1985, your girlfriend's lack of concern about using contraceptives is a tad irresponsible, but if you want to have sex with her then you can. You may be apprehensive about just using a condom because they are only 97% effective, but you must understand that this statistic was created in a laboratory experiment testing the condom's physical strength and the effectiveness of the spermicide, if there is any. This means that there is about a 3% chance of sperm getting past the condom, but it does not mean that you have a 3% chance of getting her pregnant. Your chances are much lower as the 97% statistic does not factor in what stage of her ovulation cycle she is in, or the strength and numbers of your sperm. She could get pregnant and have a miscarriage at an early stage and neither of you would ever know! And it happens a lot!Can she get pregnant? Yes of course, but don't underestimate the effectivness of a condom. As long as you use it properly, and one at a time (such a fucking stupid suggestion!), you have a great chance of having a completely safe sexual experience.
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Am I wrong for denying my g/f of sex?
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This thread is funny! In all seriousness though, you need to do her, and soon.Someone mentioned that if you don't give her the sex she wants, she's gonna find someone who will - and my guess is that it would be roughly 99% of the straight male community!She's NOT gonna have a hard time finding a guy who will bone her. You, however, will more than likely never find another girl who is this willing to put out!For the love of everything that is good and pure: ram her, and ram her good.You worry that condoms aren't enough - well if it was that much of an issue don't you think they'd make them better - or just do away with them altogether? Why market a product that doesn't work?! If you use the thing properly (and it's not hard) then the rate is 2% per year chance that she'd get a bun in the oven.If you're that worried about it, either don't ejaculate, or pull out and let her finish you off or something (provided you wear one while you're in her).The only issue I'd be weary of is her lack of willingness to take the pill coupled with her seemingly insatiable desire for sex. Some girls don't like contraception because it is their plan to get pregnant in the first place. The only girlfriend who I have been "sexually active" with (and that's a very limited use of the term) wanted me to have sex with her so that she could get pregnant (of course she didn't tell me this) because all her friends had babies and she wanted one (she thought it was like a cool new toy - one that craps and whizzes and burps and costs a lot of money).So. My suggestion is: firstly ask her why she isn't on the pill. If she has no good reason, then explain why you wont have sex with her. Maybe she'll realise.Once that's out of the way, buy some condoms. Then read the instructions 10 times. Use one or two and have a 'posh wank' in them, just so you know what is likely to happen, then invite her over and become enveloped in her womanly presence.Then when you reckon you're gonna release your man-goo, pull out of her and whack yourself off to finish up (or get her to do it!).Then sit back, smack her hoohoos about a bit and go to sleep a satisfied man. Then wake up in the morning and do it again.And then give me lots of money for making you one hell of a lucky dude!
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LoL I love you. That was funny...Saying all of that though, I don't agree the OP should go ahead with it just because there are plenty of other guys that would be willing to - if the relationship means anything she should be willing to wait until he is ready. To the OP- Maybe, like sbt suggested... talk to her and find out why she is so desperate for sex and why she refuses to go on the pill. Explain that you don't want a baby yet, and would be more than happy to have sex with her should she choose to go on the pill (or shot, go with her to make sure she actually goes through with it......) Also.. my friend and her partner have been using the pulling out (while wearing condom) method for ages because they didn't trust them 100%... and have been having sex for nearly 4 years with no accidents. Maybe you are being over-cautious??Don't be pressured into something you don't want. You will only regret it later on!
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Well guys I appreciate all of your advice. I'm being overly cautious (I usally am), but I just wanted to make sure I'm comfortable with things before I go ahead and do them, which is why I wanted some opinions. I wasn't sure exactly how safe or unsafe condoms are either..Thanks again guys... I'll keep you updated if you really want :-P
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Yeah keep us updated..hope all goes well..=]
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It bothers me that people have said 'overly caustious'. In my opinion, you can't be cautious enough when it comes to the possibility of having a child you can't afford. It's something people take too lightly.Both of you guys should be using protection and if she doesn't want to, let go have unprotected sex with someone else. They can dysfunctionally raise their child in poverty.
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I'm one of the biggest protesters of unplanned parenthood! It really really bothers me when someone I know says "We're expecting - wasn't planned though". In fact it makes me seriously angry.But at the same time you have to recognise that contraception is very effective. If it wasn't, there'd be no point in it and there would be a lot more unprotected sex, and either less people would do it, or the population would be way more than it is now.Sometimes you just have to have faith.
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I guess it's more about principle. I still think they should both be using protection. That's having faith. I just don't think his girlfriend is mature enough to know that protection is important if you aren't able to care for a child. Maybe she knows her parents will help her out if she gets in a jam, so she's thinking 'whatever'. Because of that level of maturity, she should grow up some more before she decides to have kids.This all just seems strange to me, and I'll leave it at that. Sometimes I say things and come off too strong. Then people think I'm weird and they say something that gets my upset.
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Originally Posted By: ShadowmageNine months seem like a lot of time. It's no wonder your gf is constantly turned on and thinks about sex so much.You 're OK though. Just tell her to give you some time (a couple of weeks, I'd say) so that you 'll be ready. Also don't worry so much, if you want to be even safer, use two condoms.A relationship should involve some sex now and then, so it can go on. hahaha wtf? i hope ur kidding... 2 condoms is always a NONO!they'll rub against each other and go POP
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First of all, you can't be too safe now days.
Second, in my opinion, she is trying to control you.
Now why would I think that? You mentioned that her father is a controlling person, now how would know she wouldn't be one? The reason I stated that is because she wants to have sex with you but yet refuse to take proper precautions, therefore if she is pregnant, she would have "control" over you. Also, you said that she is trying to distance herself from you, if someone were to really love you, they would definitely respect your decision. But to me, she is just going to find the next person who is not as smart as you and take advantage of that.
I am sorry to sound so harsh, but to me, this is what it looks like. If I made any mistakes in my post, please point it out.
Thank you & best of luck to you.