Well I know this girl, she is a freshman and I am a senior. I'm 18 and she is 14 going on 15. We made out on a bet once, and sense then we've made out alot more. I wouldn't say I love her or anything, but I do like her, and would like to date her. Problem is, the only time I really saw her was at after school programs that are now over. I have her number, and I am thinking about calling her up and asking her to a movie or something of that nature. Here's the problem, she is a big flirt, I wonder sometimes if the signals she sends me are serious or not. We've made out alot, but that might just be cause she's newly single and having a little fun. The next problem is that she is 14 and I am 18, now my dad and mom are 4 years apart, but that number kinda scares me. I mean the law tells me I shouldn't go after her, plus I'm going to be graduating in 2 months, so I won't see her at school anymore. I'm not to sure what I should do, because this girl is confusing the crap out of me. Should I call her up and ask her out? Maybe to a movie, or dinner. Or should I just cut my loss and move on?
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This is a toughy.
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My first thoughts are about her age. For teenagers 4 years is a much bigger gap than it is for adults, morally and legally its just not a good idea.But really, you'll be graduating in a while and you'll probably never deal with her again. I suggest that you just leave it, if you're going to college next year then you're going to meet a lot of new people and a lot of new girls.
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I agree with Bob.At 14 she's a lot more emotional than you (hormones) and you shouldn't make a move, it could backfire.
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This is way to dangerous, anything goes wrong and your held liably responsible as an adult. You need to stop and maybe eventually hit her up when shes 18 and out of high school, but otherwise her parents would freak and I could see her dad getting a baseball bat right now.
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Thanks guys, this sort of reinforced my way of thinking. I guess it was alot of fun while it lasted, but I might as well cut the ties and let it go. She was a damn good kisser tho.....
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ask her out. dont worry about the flirty thing- just make sure you have the upper hand. Be abrasive- if she tries to get the best of you, give her a cocky smile and look away. The thing about flirts is, they love giving/getting signals, messing with your head, even if it isnt in a malicious way. No point in saying 'stop flirting with me and be straight about things' since, i mean, its too early for that. way too early. just act above her flirting. treat her like a dork, thatll keep her interested and give her the upper hand.im pretty sure Sex_God recommended that to someone once, and i think its good advice.
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It's basically a game of percentages.At 14 and 18, that's like 22% of your age and 29% of hers!For your parents assuming they're in the region of 35-40 years old, that's only 10-11% of their ages.And as time goes on it gets less and less...but a rough 25% average age difference is a LOT, especially at that age.
