On Fingering

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I've begun fingering my girlfriend, and I'm having problems. The first three or four times I did it, I was horribly unsuccessful. She said it was great, I knew she was trying to be nice. But the next two times I did it, I got her to climax (or so she says). When she orgasms, she isn't loud, and I can't really feel any convulsions... down there... so to speak, but her eyes get really wattery and her beathing DOES get much heavier. But anyway, the last time I tried to finger her, she was very wet when I started, and within a minute or two she was completely dry. She was still horny, she said, but I couldn't do anything about it. And even when I started she said she couldn't really feel anything.I always finger her the way she told me to, I take my index and middle finger and push it in as deep as it can go, trying to hit the G-spot, and puling out in a "come here" motion. After a while of that... that's what usually brings her to climax. But she always says it feels good when I rub her clit, but that it isn't really "going anywhere".Are these vaginal orgasms actually orgasms she's having? And her clit must not be very sensitive... because I do put pressure on it (I think) and I thought it was supposed to be very sensitive. A danger zone if you're horny and it's... uhh, extended.Also... my girlfriend is completely comfortable with the fact that I masturbate (although she thinks that she basically takes care of me once every other week... which isn't entirely truthful, me being a guy and everything). But I want her to try it herself, or to get more comfortable with her own body, AT LEAST to help me out!Any suggestions? I'm totally new to this!

Perhaps I'm ignorant, but I don't see any "problems". I think you're being a bit paranoid.No one here can tell you if she's having an orgasm or not. You just need to take her word for it and it's up to you if you believe her or not. You know her better than anyone.  Quote:She said it was great, I knew she was trying to be nice. But the next two times I did it, I got her to climax (or so she says). When she orgasms, she isn't loud, and I can't really feel any convulsions... down there... so to speak, but her eyes get really wattery and her beathing DOES get much heavier.Every woman is different and it seems that she's having one. And if she is having an orgasm, I don't see how you can complain, lol.  Quote: But anyway, the last time I tried to finger her, she was very wet when I started, and within a minute or two she was completely dry. That's normal (it happens to me too). Her genitals will secrete a small about of lube and that's it. It doesn't produce over and over until the session is finished. That's why you should have a bottle of lube in handy.  Quote:But she always says it feels good when I rub her clit, but that it isn't really "going anywhere".Like I said, everyone is different. Perhaps she doesn't get off from rubbing her clit alone.It seems to me that you're doing fine, honey. I mean, if you really feel that she might be lying to you, then be up front about it. But if you trust her, then try to let it go and focus on having fun.

Well if she says she is having an orgasm then i think you should believe her. I dont see a point to her lying about that unless you are the sensitive type and she is trying to protect your feelings. As far as the clit thing, i guess it just depends on the person. I have only fingered my girlfriend once, she prefers me to run her clit or eat her out. Best way to do it is just talk to her.

Forget about the Gspot just gently rub her clit. Pushing your finger in as far as it go doesn't sound like much fun. 2nd, you don't have to scream when you have an orgasm. 3rd, she will touch herself for you when she is ready.

Clit, push finger in as far as it will go???

I am lost, the clit is on the outside, and the cervix is "in as far as it will go"....Hitting the cervix can cause some serious pain in some women!!!

No. the OP said.. I always finger her the way she told me to, I take my index and middle finger and push it in as deep as it can go, trying to hit the G-spot,

oops! I thought the person replying was saying to do that, to find the clit, though it didn't seem much fun.Just one of those moments I guess. And I am sure I have added confusion to many others now..lol

how do u finger

I tried it once, and I found I did better with my tongue. Though I prefer guys. It doesn't require much fingering, unless I am after the prostate...A good ol' clit rub does me good usually though!