Why Do Nice Guys Finish Last?

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Nice guys are nice because of two reasons:They had a severely tramatic event happen to them in thier lives.They are really ugly.Bad guys are assholes because of two reasons:They've never had anything bad happen to them really.They're really hot so even if something bad does happen, the 15 blowjobs they receive everyday help them get over it and back into a natural asshole state.

Bullshit.And why are you bringing up dead threads?

I don't agree, Someone young. I don't notice nicer guys looking worse that ugly guys - I've certainly known nice good-looking guys and not nice guys with no looks either.Traumatic events don't turn nasty guys into nice guys. They lay a burden on people - of nightmares, flashbacks, phobias, anxiety and/or anger - which people respond to differently.

That's one of the more stupid things I've heard in a while.

glad u didnt say that to my post...

ineligible is correct, im one of those mean guys that became good, i had alot of traumatic shit happen to me, and im going to therapy now, but i still have flash backs, i have phobias, i have ocd's

i have a huge phobia of getting stabbed with a knife, ironically enough i cut myself on my legs, but i cant stand the though of getting stabbed in the stomach/chest/torso, i think about myself dieing that way and i want to scream my head off and pour tears out of my eyes...

when im walking down the street by myself, or with someone who i know cant protect me as well as i can protect myself, i have a tendency to look behind myself every 10-15 steps.

i have flash backs of when my bestfriend/brother died, the way that he screamed frequently haunts me in nightmares and day dreams, i twitch at night now, and i have small muscle spasms that occur almost daily.

i have terrible anxiety whenever im around ALOT of people and i cant see or think of an immediate exit route or when i cant watch everyone and have at least 5 feet between us (this ties into my phobia of being stabbed)

i suffered alot from anger, but i've over come it by going to therapy, and training my body to relax more.

but trust me, if i had to choose between 10 years of being an asshole that never knows love, or living the rest of my life with the death of countless people on my chest,

i'd choose the 10 years.

i have ocd's> training my body to relax moreThat is some of the dumbest shit I've ever read.

Why would having obsessions as a result of traumatic events, or trying relaxation exercises, be dumb?

Saying he has ocd's as opposed to OCD, for one. This would indicate that he probably defined them himself as opposed to a professional, but maybe not.

i define OCD as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder,meaning, when you do something, and you cant control yourself from doing it...i wrote OCD's because of the fact that there are more than one...also typically the majority of OCD's arent able to be diagnosed because of the fact that people have so many weird ones, and the doctors cant sit there and follow u around all day, diagnosing you...for instance, i cant be inna crowded room, or i start freaking out.whenever im walking by myself i have to look back every 15 or so steps to make shure no ones behind mewhenever i get money handed to me, i freak out if its not in this correct orderbig bills in the back, all have to be face forward, and rightside up...if a dollar bill is too damaged i exchange it.those are a couple that people have pointed out to me, im shure i have others though that people just havent seen...

I believe Cider knows what OCD is. What he's trying to get at is you can't self-diagnose yourself or claim to have a certain condition without getting checked with a professional first.

I believe we all know what OCD is.> for instance, i cant be inna crowded room, or i start freaking out.> whenever im walking by myself i have to look back every 15 or so steps to make shure no ones behind me> whenever i get money handed to me, i freak out if its not in this correct order> if a dollar bill is too damaged i exchange it.None of those things have anything to do with OCD.

While it's important to use a professional to get an accurate diagnosis, people with obsessions and compulsions do know they have them, unlike in some mental disorders.

Thos eare hardly OCD's..Two are fears. The others aren't anything. I sort my bills too when I put them in my wallet. it's easier to get a bill without digging around and I can tell how much money I have if it's sorted. I'll alsoo get rid of a crappy bill first before the others.. Not OCD's

you dont understand what i meant by my money...i will start freaking out if i open my wallet and the bills arent in the correct order, and i start shaking whenever im handling misguided money....i dropped my wallet and literally jumped back from it when my girlfriend didnt put the money in correctly when she took my walet to go order food...isnt an ocd something that you HAVE to physically do, and something that you cant control...also i dont see how, having to look behind myself every 15 steps is a fear and not an ocd... my sister was bar tending and a man who has ocd came to the counter and gave her 5 bucks for a 2 dollar drink, when he got the money back, each dollar he had to tap 3 times before he could put it in his wallet...idk how a doctor would diagnose that, but im intrigued in learning more about this subject, everyone just tells me i have ocd's, and my old doctor said from what i described to him, that they were ocd's so im just confused.

i will start freaking out if i open my wallet and the bills arent in the correct order, and i start shaking whenever im handling misguided money....Not OCD> i dropped my wallet and literally jumped back from it when my girlfriend didnt put the money in correctly when she took my walet to go order food...Not OCD> also i dont see how, having to look behind myself every 15 steps is a fear and not an ocd...It is a fear. You told us you had a fear that someone is going to stab you, which is why you look behind every 15 steps... rolleyesBasically, all the lies you're telling are not OCDs.

what lies am i telling you, i just said that i want to fucking learn what the hell it is, and why i do it... stop being a fucking asshole and talk to me!the 15 steps thing, i see how its a fear now that i've been thinking about it...ok... now, what is the reason for my money and wallet thing then, what is it if not ocd? and what do you define ocd as

This is kinda why you need professional help in figuring out what's a real illness versus a common form of perfectionism. The tricky thing about OCD is that almost everyone will have something they must do in a certain way. It's only serious if affects their everyday lives and routines, like work or school. I have list of shit I must do, but it's doesn't get in the way of how I live my life or cause me extra stress, anxiety, or depression.But that's what I know. I don't know if I'm right, I'm no psychologist.  Quote:i will start freaking out if i open my wallet and the bills arent in the correct order, and i start shaking whenever im handling misguided money....I do the money thing myself. To me, it's just my little form of perfectionism because I don't grow anxious or fearful. But it is something I have to do. Originally Posted By: GrownPastMyYearsfor instance, i cant be inna crowded room, or i start freaking out.Claustrophobia Originally Posted By: GrownPastMyYearswhenever im walking by myself i have to look back every 15 or so steps to make shure no ones behind meAnother fear.ADDED: Read this to get a bit of understanding.

what lies am i telling you, You know exactly what lies I'm telling about. I can't prove it, but I don't need to prove it to anyone. You already know what I'm talking about, and that's fine for me.And no, I won't leave you alone until you start telling the truth. Sorry, bud, that's just how it's gonna be. You know how to solve this problem.

I think there have been a number of doubtful statements about what constitutes OCD. OCD is an anxiety disorder that is characterised by obsessions and/or compulsions. Not all obsessions or compulsions are due to OCD.Here is the official definition from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, 4th edition, Text Revised, pages 462-463:Diagnostic Criteria for Obsessive-Compulsive DisorderA. Either obsessions or compulsions:Obsessions are as defined by (1), (2), (3), and (4):1. Recurrent and persistent thoughts, impulses, or images that are experienced, at some time during the disturbance, as intrusive and inappropriate and that cause marked anxiety or distress;2. The thoughts, impulses, or images are not simply excessive worries about real-life problems; 3. The person attempts to ignore or suppress such thoughts, impulses, or images, or to neutralize them with some other thought or action;4. The person recognizes that the obsessional thoughts, impulses, or images are a product of his or her own mind (not imposed from without as in thought insertion).Compulsions as defined by (1) and (2):1. Repetitive behaviors (e.g., hand washing, ordering, checking) or mental acts (e.g., praying, counting, repeating words silently) that the person feels driven to perform in response to an obsession, or according to rules that must be applied rigidly; 2. The behaviors or mental acts are aimed at preventing or reducing distress or preventing some dreaded event or situation; however, these behaviors or mental acts either are not connected in a realistic way with what they are designed to neutralize or are clearly excessive.B. At some point during the course of the disorder, the person has recognized that the obsessions or compulsions are excessive or unreasonable. Note: This does not apply to children.C. The obsessions or compulsions cause marked distress, are time consuming (take more than 1 hour a day), or significantly interfere with the person's normal routine, occupational (or academic) functioning, or usual activities or relationships.D. If another Axis I disorder is present, the content of the obsessions or compulsions is not restricted to it (e.g., preoccupation with food in the presence of an Eating Disorder; hair pulling in the presence of Trichotillomania; concern with appearance in the presence of Body Dysmorphic Disorder; preoccupation with drugs in the presence of a Substance Use Disorder; preoccupation with having a serious illness in the presence of Hypochondriasis; preoccupation with sexual urges or fantasies in the presence of a Paraphilia; or guilty ruminations in the presence of Major Depressive Disorder).E. The disturbance is not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition.