FB and GF. I might be in trouble...

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Okay. Me and my girlfriend are really close, and i love her. We're passionate and love to cuddle. Well, there's this girl who's one of my best friends, and we like to friendly-flirt. Like, we're not trying anything, it's innocent. well recently, we've been kind of "teasing" eachother. Like making up stories about how we'd screw eachother. She sees it as tottaly ok, but i think if my girlfriend finds out she'd be ticked. the other girl and i call eachother our fuckbuddy. Chill out, we know we're not REALLY a FUCKbuddy, it's a joke to us. Am I compromising my relationship with my girlfriend by laughing around with this girl? Am I being a player/cheater? (all we do is make stupid comments to eachother and act like we're horny all the time. it's all talk and no action.) what I'm asking is...am I in HUGE trouble?

Your not cheating IMO, but you are DEFINITELY compromising your relationship and putting it on the line if your girl is the kind of girl that would get angry about that.

The other girl has no problem with my GF...but my GF feels a little intimidated by the other girl. I don't know if she'd fly off the handle...but she'd probably be a little mad. Like i said, our screwing around is all bark and no bite.

Yes, but it might not look that way to her. Imagine if you were in her shoes, and she's being really good friends with this guy she calls her fuck buddy. It might make her insecure in your relationship that you might end up doing something.

Yep, I can concur with this; my ex-bitch pulled that shit...it's the easiest way to permanently destroying any trust with you. Cut that shit out...or actually move onto being FB's (because you'll be without a GF anyways, if you continue)

oh i have several friends that i'm like that with, for instance me and one girl had a joek for a few months that she had my baby and i always tell one of my best friends that she's the only girl for me, well not since i started goign out with my girlfriend, i try to tone it down now that I'm with her, i made the mistake of wrestling out on the feild a few days ago with on of my good friends thats a girl, my gf was not to happy about that, i had to do a lot of smothign that one over, i suggest maybe tonign it down a bit and just reasureing ur gf that she's the only one for you

Like the others have said, you could very well be compromising your relationship if she has a problem with it. I think most, if not all, young adults have insecurities. She also may feel that your disrespecting her. There are a lot of variables to this situation, but most of the time when the boyfriend/girlfriend title are in play people feel like there are certain things that should and should not be done. Maybe you should try to find out what your "boundaries" are, so to speak.EDIT: And don't forget that people lie. Girls often do that pouty, "no, it's fine. Go ahead." and what they really mean is, "you're a bastard if you do it." lol

Originally Posted By: websexinfo

EDIT: And don't forget that people lie. Girls often do that pouty, "no, it's fine. Go ahead." and what they really mean is, "you're a bastard if you do it." lol

And that if you continue after the false "No it's fine" you're likely to wind up needing the fuck buddy, because your girl will likely leave you.

I find myself saying "its fine" if I really mean "I wish you wouldn't do that... you should know already it hurts me without me needing to tell you"... To the OP - I wouldn't continue doing what you are, I don't think it shows a lot of respect to your gf's feelings. You already know that you shouldn't or that you're unsure because you posted the question

tapping fingers This is kind of a rhetorical question, but why do girls do that?

I would like to know that myself.Maybe we should know it but if we don't, why don't you just tell us?

We like to try to be understanding and get over it.

You're Joking right?I'm the most confrontational pain in the ass, and if my fella is doing something like running around saying this girl is his fuck buddy, I'm going to try to deal with it, and understand, but in no way is that me not trying to disturb "The Man." Fuck That.

You just admitted you are the exception to the rule. As crappy as it sounds; that is STILL a rather true sociocultural norm. Girls still are raised to be less confrontational.

Maybe we are raised to be less confrontational. I say "it's fine" simply because I want my man to make his own choices. And I want him to make the right one without me having to tell him what to do.

Well, you (and me) are the exception to the rule. For the most part, women are taught to be less confrontational and to just go with the flow.

Quote:I say "it's fine" simply because I want my man to make his own choices. And I want him to make the right one without me having to tell him what to do. I feel the same way. And I often say 'it's fine' when it's really not.I think being confrontational with your lover is different than being confrontational with some random man. I have no problem telling someone else to 'F off'. lol

Quote:And I often say 'it's fine' when it's really not.I think being confrontational with your lover is different than being confrontational with some random man. I have no problem telling someone else to 'F off'. lol I completely agree with you on both of those points! If any other guy were to do something, I would definately say directly what is on my mind. I can't quite figure out why though...!?

Quote:If any other guy were to do something, I would definately say directly what is on my mind. I can't quite figure out why though...!? You care a lot about what your man thinks about you. You care less about what a stranger thinks about you. There are a lot of feelings mixed into the judgement.Girls feel like their man should know what they like and don't like. At the same time, boundaries are different from girl to girl. This is where men often get themselves in trouble. I like to call them out on it by saying something like, "Are you doing that pouty girl thing again? You know, that 'when you say no it really means yes' thing?" lol.

I was just about to run off to bed when I noticed that you'd replied here...

I couldn't put my finger on exactly why I did that... but..you are completely right!!
My man calls me out on "that pouty girl thing" in the same way that you do. It makes me laugh, and he always does the right thing when he realises :grin: it obviously works! hehe.