Ok, this is really weird for me. Great guy, all that and I am SO not complaining. This is just REALLY different for me! I am used to guys who won't leave me alone to...well ANYTHING, they are horny, erect and aroused at the drop of..EVERYTHING. (Puke btw)Anyway, we have gotten really comfy with each other, my guy is working longer hours, still dealing with his divorce, and lots of stuff right now. But for like 5 days, I have been WAY too horny..lolBut 2 (out of 7 or 8) times he has tried, and well, he just goes soft. I wonder at 31 yrs old, if that is somewhat normal, considering all the stress. (He has had it happen before, but his ex went all psycho on him). So, is it somewhat normal? AND because he is so young, does anyone know if it may become a more "serious" case of ED when he is older? Or am I just wearing the poor boy out?
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Different sex drives
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Well, he's obviously under a lot of stress with work and divorce. That can cause occasional problems, and when it happens to a guy, it's a terrible blow. He thinks "will it happen again next time?" and worries about it and gets more stressed. A very horny partner actually makes it worse, because he feels it is his job to please her, and that it's very important that he performs well, and not doing so would be letting her down and making her feel bad, and so he feels under more pressure and gets more stressed.
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I SO do not try to make him feel bad. I know it happens, I have just never been with anyone who had this problem. So, I get a bit nervous that it might be me!! I back off, let him know I love him, hug him, touch him (not there) but I kinda DO freak out inside, probably like he does? I really try to hide my disappointment, but I am sure he catches it. The easy one, was, when he went soft AFTER we were busy, I didn't lie, about it.I wasn't out for an orgasm that time, so him not coming did make my mess easier to clean...but I did feel bad, that he didn't get to cum.Edit: I have NEVER been with a guy like that. I like to think I am compassionate about it, but guys who DO have this issue, is it really normal? Did I just get a hold of strictly perves?
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Me and the manthing have definitely got different sex drives at the moment, mine has speeded up big time, his has slowed......its happened before but the other way around, so im hoping it isn't a forever thing.........but i do feel unloved and wanted sometimes but try very hard to not feel that way.Its probably stress thats doing it hon and now hes gone soft a couple of times well he'll be worried.....when that happened to my manthing i felt so bad for him, and i knew he was worried, but i didn't let on it bothered me at all......i let him guide the way things went then, when he was ready and turned on enough for it i was there but i didn't instigate it......don't know if that was the right or wrong thing to do i think only the guys will be able to advise on that one.Hope things pick up hon.
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I think you handled it perfectly.
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wipes brow thanks for that hon
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Ikes! now the guys know it does bother us..lolThanks for the advice guys. I still reach out, but not as aggressively. If he isn't "there" I just cuddle. I might try Angels approach, if it happens again.I hope I can last it out! LOL, Jim just don't cut it anymore. He seems better if it is me giving it all. BJ's work, and if I climb on top, at least so far.
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DAMMIT i didn't think about that....looks for delete button