So me and my boyfriend have been dating for about three YEARS now...we started dating young (I had just turned 14, he was 14) and he was my first major boyfriend.We had always looked forward to summer 2008 because we would both be working at an amusement park together, which is where we met and started dating. Just this past weekend, as we were at said amusement park getting our season passes for our third year together, he mentioned how we would have to start looking at apartments soon because when we work there, we don't want to stay in the dorms.That realization was a shocker. I didn't really realize how long we had been together until then. Now that I think about it, I am ashamed to say that it kind of freaks me out. I still feel so young and SO inexperienced. Yes, he is my first and only love...but then again, I have never known anything but him. What if I am wrong? What if this guy really isn't my soul mate (and yes, I believe in those).My friends have been telling me, "take a break". And it makes sense...maybe just for a few months to see what happens. I am just so afraid to make such a commitment (although a 3 yr relationship is a HUGE commitment in itself) with such a lack of experience. Also, my parents married young and were basically in my same situation, and they are recently divorced. This is another reason as to why I'm paranoid.Our relationship itself is great. I love him, and when we're together I think "I could be with this guy forever..", but times like now when I'm sitting alone and REALLY thinking about it, I just don't know. And it scares the living hell out of me.And if I do decide to take a break, this couldn't be a worse time to do it. Our anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks, and we are going to celebrate by going to that amusement park for their opening weekend, as we have as a tradition every year since we started dating. I CAN'T hurt him like this...especially not right now.Advice, please? I'm going crazy here.
Is it Time for a Break?
Well you really only have two options then.. to take a break.. or not to take a break.There are the pros and cons with each. When me and my boyfriend Josh took a break.. we didnt last a day apart!You are young, and you're right.. you can't be certain if he is right for you in the future, or if you see yourself marrying him. But youre happy, and so is he. Live in the present.. live in right now. When me and Josh took our break.. my friend kept telling me that I should just break up with him for good, and be single and that I didnt need him.. and it hurt me so bad, it hurt me to think of NOT being with him.. and my other friend said to me "that it hurts so bad being away from him.. its so painful.. that the only thing that can cure it is to be with him again" .. and it was true. I know Im kinda rambling.. but if you love him, love him right now, you ARE young.. and if this works out, thats great! And if not, you have learned how to love and have felt being loved. If you do take a break, it could do more damage then good... and ive heard girls tell me that by taking a break it pushed them apart.
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.
If you hurt him by telling him you want a break, your relationship might not recover. I agree with Pink, you love him now, so love him now worry about the ifs and nots when it comes to that, Right now you're happy and in love and young, don't wreck a wonderful thing until there are problems.If there are soul mates, you're find yours if you haven't already.
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hi there,my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost three and a half years. we started dating about 4 months before my 16th birthday. we both love each other sooo much, but about a year ago when all kinds of shit happened to me, i was really frustrated and i mentioned going on a break. i think it was one of the biggest mistakes i have ever done. i just couldnt last without him.we've had our ups and downs, and a while back i started thinking like you (about how im so young and how hes my first love), and it overwhelmed me. but now im living in the present.we just bought a car together 2 days ago, and we pretty well live together. i cant last a night without him. it makes me sick to my stomach lol.just live in the present, not in the future, and dont worry about things if you dont need to =) (sorry to ramble lol)
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