A Really Dumb Problem, but Don't feel like dating
This isn't really a "problem" per-say, but I've just not had much of a desire to date in my life. I'm 17, I'm a good looking guy, but I just don't go out, nor have any desire to have a girlfriend. I'm not gay or anything, I still am attracted highly attracted to women.. heck the sex is the only part that wants me to even have a girlfriend, but otherwise it's just not a big enough need in my life to attempt getting a girlfriend.
So what do you guys think is my deal, too much of a loner or too much of a wacko? Help me out, haha.
Welcome to A2A, 8BallRob! How are you for friends and a social life generally?
Well thing is this, I don't have much of a social life, because to be honest, I like staying home and doing nothing. It's easy, and comfortable for me. I go to school every day, see most of my friends there, come home, and I'm good, I've hit my social peak for the day.
I've had a few girlfriends before and all, and they were swell, but once I lose a gf, I don't go looking for one right away, they just kind of fall to me by circumstance.
Not to hijack your thread, seeing as I am only 14, but I have the same problem. Perhaps I will eventually date more, but I feel the same way as you.
Especially being at home & stuff.
I think no-one should feel they must have a girlfriend or boyfriend. It's healthier if these happen naturally rather than spending a lot of time hunting for them.
However it is important to have a reasonable social life. There should be a balance between time with groups of friends, time with one or two close friends, and time alone.
I have been in a similar situation in the past, i never felt there was anything wrong with not wanting to date.
What is your parents relationship like? Do you have brothers/sisters?
Im convinced that family life had a massive bearing on how you socialise with others. My dad used to work away for 10 days and be back for 4 and i never really felt i had a father figure when i was growing up and it had an adverse affect on how i socialised with others.
god forbid your desires do not match what society tells you they should be! seriously, do what makes you happy.
Don't be worked up about it. I'm in the same situation, for my own reasons. Honestly I think you should just forget about it and if/when you do decide you want a g/f, go for it!
I was / am the same way. I dunno, all throughout high school i never felt like it. I have a very active social life, but i dunno, never felt like dating. Wasn't really for me. That changed for me, and it'll probably change for you too eventually. Now I see my girlfriend almost daily, and it's wonderful, but really only in the last 2 months have things been like this for me.